Abethatguy
Don Juan
And she's banging strangers
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Friendzoned me after we already banged, saying she doesn't want to get emotionally attached to me because her ex is in her life
- Thread starter Abethatguy
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
Abethatguy
Don Juan
They dated a long time, she got to know his family, now she's emotionally attached to him but isn't banging him, he calls her every day and uses her for emotional support etc.
She lets me touch her, kiss her, just doesn't let me bang again because of emotions or whatever.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
I’m pretty much going no contact, but we have a lot of mutual friends.
Why doesn’t she want to bang though? Will distancing myself change things ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she’s not banging him though, she pretty much has him by the collar and considers him weak
lamath
Master Don Juan
She does not deserve your attention, she is a time waster.
Bad behavior aka teasing you should not be rewarded with more attention/validation.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
All I’m saying is, should I just distance myself and not contact her? Will that get results ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
lol not at all, she kept coming over for the next two weeks after we ****ed
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
yup
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she told me point blank she thinks I’m attractive
lamath
Master Don Juan
You should not waste time on a women that does not want to bang.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Dont listen to her word man, watch what she is doing.
She is not banging act accordingly
walk away, if she reaches, make sure it's clear you want to **** or it's a no go to any other contacts.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.