Abethatguy
Don Juan
And she's banging strangers
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Friendzoned me after we already banged, saying she doesn't want to get emotionally attached to me because her ex is in her life
- Thread starter Abethatguy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
Abethatguy
Don Juan
They dated a long time, she got to know his family, now she's emotionally attached to him but isn't banging him, he calls her every day and uses her for emotional support etc.
She lets me touch her, kiss her, just doesn't let me bang again because of emotions or whatever.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
I’m pretty much going no contact, but we have a lot of mutual friends.
Why doesn’t she want to bang though? Will distancing myself change things ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she’s not banging him though, she pretty much has him by the collar and considers him weak
lamath
Master Don Juan
She does not deserve your attention, she is a time waster.
Bad behavior aka teasing you should not be rewarded with more attention/validation.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
All I’m saying is, should I just distance myself and not contact her? Will that get results ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
lol not at all, she kept coming over for the next two weeks after we ****ed
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
yup
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she told me point blank she thinks I’m attractive
lamath
Master Don Juan
You should not waste time on a women that does not want to bang.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Dont listen to her word man, watch what she is doing.
She is not banging act accordingly
walk away, if she reaches, make sure it's clear you want to **** or it's a no go to any other contacts.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.