Abethatguy
Don Juan
And she's banging strangers
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Friendzoned me after we already banged, saying she doesn't want to get emotionally attached to me because her ex is in her life
- Thread starter Abethatguy
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
Abethatguy
Don Juan
They dated a long time, she got to know his family, now she's emotionally attached to him but isn't banging him, he calls her every day and uses her for emotional support etc.
She lets me touch her, kiss her, just doesn't let me bang again because of emotions or whatever.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
I’m pretty much going no contact, but we have a lot of mutual friends.
Why doesn’t she want to bang though? Will distancing myself change things ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she’s not banging him though, she pretty much has him by the collar and considers him weak
lamath
Master Don Juan
She does not deserve your attention, she is a time waster.
Bad behavior aka teasing you should not be rewarded with more attention/validation.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
All I’m saying is, should I just distance myself and not contact her? Will that get results ?
Abethatguy
Don Juan
lol not at all, she kept coming over for the next two weeks after we ****ed
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abethatguy
Don Juan
yup
Abethatguy
Don Juan
she told me point blank she thinks I’m attractive
lamath
Master Don Juan
You should not waste time on a women that does not want to bang.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
You should always have the mindset, im not banging her so im getting more and more bored with her.
And what you do when she is not amusing/entertaining you in that way is you slowly lose interest in her
You dont do this in a overt/butt hurt way but just as a fact that her presence is starting to bore you so you dont waste time on her.
This might or might not spike her interest, but in this situation its the best cpurse of action regatdless of result.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Dont listen to her word man, watch what she is doing.
She is not banging act accordingly
walk away, if she reaches, make sure it's clear you want to **** or it's a no go to any other contacts.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.