"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First time interested in a black chick...

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mrgoodstuff

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Well for one, you can stop fetishising her and just ask her out like any other woman. She's not a god. She's only human.
That's true. Pedestalation occurs and that hurts your chances greatly. This lady is someones daughter, someones sister, someones neice, she takes craps like you, bleeds when she's cut, gets sick, and has to take care of herself to appear her best.
 

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Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.

Anybody ever see Iman, David Bowie's wife? One of the most beautiful women in the world, and very fine facial features.

Genetic studies have shown greater genetic diversity amongst African tribes than between any other ethnic comparison. I'd have to look for the study but the idea that black means one set of traits is silliness.

Hot is hot OP. If she's your cup of tea go for it! I think she's a gorgeous woman even though I'm not into women...I appreciate beauty and she is certainly beautiful.

Just don't get all gaa gaa. That goes badly as you know.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So this is the first time a black girl has ever really caught my eye. She's seriously one of the hottest black girls I've ever seen-maybe even one of the hottest girls I've ever met, black or white.

She has curly hair but she wears it straight sometimes too. She's got a nice body, a degree, and isn't one of those egoistical pretty girls either. She just got out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago so I know she's not a sloot.

Like I said I'm a white guy and this is the first time being interested in a black chick so I just don't know how to really go about things. So what do you think of her? Any tips or stories of dating outside your race?

Here's some pics of her from NYE and with her curly hair.
She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.
 

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That's a mixed girl. Mixed girls are so fine. Kinds different from a full black girl.

Dude try to get with her. If she can cook then she probably can do some of that tasty African/Caribbean cuisine. It's delicious. Plus black girls are typically cooler than white girls imo.

This has made me realise how much I want a Beyonce or a tinashe in my life lol
 

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I think black girls look way nicer when they have their hair natural like in that third pic.

Anyway treat her same as any other girl, just try not to be too much of a cracker (but also don't start talking ebonics haha)
 

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She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.
True. Luckily she has no kids and she comes from a good family. Both of her parents went to the #1 school in her state. I'm just surprised she hasn't been taken already.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP- do not put this chick on a pedestal. It seems as though you have already put her there and mentally you already put her out of reach.

Just curious OP......is her ex a white dude or black dude?

Approach her like you would any other chick that you want to take the bait. Be social and a touch flirty, but by all means ask her out. Get your answer.

Dont bring up the race topic or think you have to act any different than you normally would with a chick.

When I date younger women (I'm 39 and normally date chicks between 25-30) I never bring up the age difference. Normally, they wont either. Same with race.

Black women can be very sexy and I have hooked up with one or two in my time.
 

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OP- do not put this chick on a pedestal. It seems as though you have already put her there and mentally you already put her out of reach.

Just curious OP......is her ex a white dude or black dude?

Approach her like you would any other chick that you want to take the bait. Be social and a touch flirty, but by all means ask her out. Get your answer.

Dont bring up the race topic or think you have to act any different than you normally would with a chick.

When I date younger women (I'm 39 and normally date chicks between 25-30) I never bring up the age difference. Normally, they wont either. Same with race.

Black women can be very sexy and I have hooked up with one or two in my time.

Her ex was black.
 

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I think black girls look way nicer when they have their hair natural like in that third pic.

Anyway treat her same as any other girl, just try not to be too much of a cracker (but also don't start talking ebonics haha)
Haha.
Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.

Anybody ever see Iman, David Bowie's wife? One of the most beautiful women in the world, and very fine facial features.

Genetic studies have shown greater genetic diversity amongst African tribes than between any other ethnic comparison. I'd have to look for the study but the idea that black means one set of traits is silliness.

Hot is hot OP. If she's your cup of tea go for it! I think she's a gorgeous woman even though I'm not into women...I appreciate beauty and she is certainly beautiful.

Just don't get all gaa gaa. That goes badly as you know.
Yea you're right. I'm going to try to keep my emotions/mind in check with this one.
 

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Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
That's because Ethiopians, Somalis and many Sudanese are a product of the mixing of Caucasian (i.e. Arab and Berber) North African tribes and black Sub-Saharan African tribes. Unmixed black Africans come primarily from the western and southern parts Africa.
 

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had to come back and say if you haven't given a black chick a try before do so immediately.

They're amazing
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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had to come back and say if you haven't given a black chick a try before do so immediately.

They're amazing
They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.
 

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They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.
Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.
 

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Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.
That's because they have to use lotion all the time to prevent it from being ashy...

lotion is huge among black people...I worked with all black co-workers for a time and they were the most lotion using mofo's I've ever seen, lol
 

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I think we see races differently in this regard because they fail btch tests differently.

Honestly, you shouldn't change anything. The same alpha mind frame that helped you land a hot white girl will help you land a hot black girl. If she's interested, you'll know. If not, next.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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