Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's not trueThat girl is more mixed than rum and coke. Pure black women don't have light skin and narrow noses.
That's true. Pedestalation occurs and that hurts your chances greatly. This lady is someones daughter, someones sister, someones neice, she takes craps like you, bleeds when she's cut, gets sick, and has to take care of herself to appear her best.Well for one, you can stop fetishising her and just ask her out like any other woman. She's not a god. She's only human.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.So this is the first time a black girl has ever really caught my eye. She's seriously one of the hottest black girls I've ever seen-maybe even one of the hottest girls I've ever met, black or white.
She has curly hair but she wears it straight sometimes too. She's got a nice body, a degree, and isn't one of those egoistical pretty girls either. She just got out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago so I know she's not a sloot.
Like I said I'm a white guy and this is the first time being interested in a black chick so I just don't know how to really go about things. So what do you think of her? Any tips or stories of dating outside your race?
Here's some pics of her from NYE and with her curly hair.
How about, we talk about the easter bunny existing? ( verbal irony )They sure do.
True. Luckily she has no kids and she comes from a good family. Both of her parents went to the #1 school in her state. I'm just surprised she hasn't been taken already.She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
OP- do not put this chick on a pedestal. It seems as though you have already put her there and mentally you already put her out of reach.
Just curious OP......is her ex a white dude or black dude?
Approach her like you would any other chick that you want to take the bait. Be social and a touch flirty, but by all means ask her out. Get your answer.
Dont bring up the race topic or think you have to act any different than you normally would with a chick.
When I date younger women (I'm 39 and normally date chicks between 25-30) I never bring up the age difference. Normally, they wont either. Same with race.
Black women can be very sexy and I have hooked up with one or two in my time.
Haha.I think black girls look way nicer when they have their hair natural like in that third pic.
Anyway treat her same as any other girl, just try not to be too much of a cracker (but also don't start talking ebonics haha)
Yea you're right. I'm going to try to keep my emotions/mind in check with this one.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
Anybody ever see Iman, David Bowie's wife? One of the most beautiful women in the world, and very fine facial features.
Genetic studies have shown greater genetic diversity amongst African tribes than between any other ethnic comparison. I'd have to look for the study but the idea that black means one set of traits is silliness.
Hot is hot OP. If she's your cup of tea go for it! I think she's a gorgeous woman even though I'm not into women...I appreciate beauty and she is certainly beautiful.
Just don't get all gaa gaa. That goes badly as you know.
That's because Ethiopians, Somalis and many Sudanese are a product of the mixing of Caucasian (i.e. Arab and Berber) North African tribes and black Sub-Saharan African tribes. Unmixed black Africans come primarily from the western and southern parts Africa.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.had to come back and say if you haven't given a black chick a try before do so immediately.
They're amazing
Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.
That's because they have to use lotion all the time to prevent it from being ashy...Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.