You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That's not trueThat girl is more mixed than rum and coke. Pure black women don't have light skin and narrow noses.
That's true. Pedestalation occurs and that hurts your chances greatly. This lady is someones daughter, someones sister, someones neice, she takes craps like you, bleeds when she's cut, gets sick, and has to take care of herself to appear her best.Well for one, you can stop fetishising her and just ask her out like any other woman. She's not a god. She's only human.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.So this is the first time a black girl has ever really caught my eye. She's seriously one of the hottest black girls I've ever seen-maybe even one of the hottest girls I've ever met, black or white.
She has curly hair but she wears it straight sometimes too. She's got a nice body, a degree, and isn't one of those egoistical pretty girls either. She just got out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago so I know she's not a sloot.
Like I said I'm a white guy and this is the first time being interested in a black chick so I just don't know how to really go about things. So what do you think of her? Any tips or stories of dating outside your race?
Here's some pics of her from NYE and with her curly hair.
How about, we talk about the easter bunny existing? ( verbal irony )They sure do.
True. Luckily she has no kids and she comes from a good family. Both of her parents went to the #1 school in her state. I'm just surprised she hasn't been taken already.She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
OP- do not put this chick on a pedestal. It seems as though you have already put her there and mentally you already put her out of reach.
Just curious OP......is her ex a white dude or black dude?
Approach her like you would any other chick that you want to take the bait. Be social and a touch flirty, but by all means ask her out. Get your answer.
Dont bring up the race topic or think you have to act any different than you normally would with a chick.
When I date younger women (I'm 39 and normally date chicks between 25-30) I never bring up the age difference. Normally, they wont either. Same with race.
Black women can be very sexy and I have hooked up with one or two in my time.
Haha.I think black girls look way nicer when they have their hair natural like in that third pic.
Anyway treat her same as any other girl, just try not to be too much of a cracker (but also don't start talking ebonics haha)
Yea you're right. I'm going to try to keep my emotions/mind in check with this one.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
Anybody ever see Iman, David Bowie's wife? One of the most beautiful women in the world, and very fine facial features.
Genetic studies have shown greater genetic diversity amongst African tribes than between any other ethnic comparison. I'd have to look for the study but the idea that black means one set of traits is silliness.
Hot is hot OP. If she's your cup of tea go for it! I think she's a gorgeous woman even though I'm not into women...I appreciate beauty and she is certainly beautiful.
Just don't get all gaa gaa. That goes badly as you know.
That's because Ethiopians, Somalis and many Sudanese are a product of the mixing of Caucasian (i.e. Arab and Berber) North African tribes and black Sub-Saharan African tribes. Unmixed black Africans come primarily from the western and southern parts Africa.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.had to come back and say if you haven't given a black chick a try before do so immediately.
They're amazing
Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.
That's because they have to use lotion all the time to prevent it from being ashy...Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.