She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That's not trueThat girl is more mixed than rum and coke. Pure black women don't have light skin and narrow noses.
That's true. Pedestalation occurs and that hurts your chances greatly. This lady is someones daughter, someones sister, someones neice, she takes craps like you, bleeds when she's cut, gets sick, and has to take care of herself to appear her best.Well for one, you can stop fetishising her and just ask her out like any other woman. She's not a god. She's only human.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.So this is the first time a black girl has ever really caught my eye. She's seriously one of the hottest black girls I've ever seen-maybe even one of the hottest girls I've ever met, black or white.
She has curly hair but she wears it straight sometimes too. She's got a nice body, a degree, and isn't one of those egoistical pretty girls either. She just got out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago so I know she's not a sloot.
Like I said I'm a white guy and this is the first time being interested in a black chick so I just don't know how to really go about things. So what do you think of her? Any tips or stories of dating outside your race?
Here's some pics of her from NYE and with her curly hair.
How about, we talk about the easter bunny existing? ( verbal irony )They sure do.
True. Luckily she has no kids and she comes from a good family. Both of her parents went to the #1 school in her state. I'm just surprised she hasn't been taken already.She is hot as hell. Just beware of dating the black chicks who have kids because, usually they are by some convicted, bum, loser, thug.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
OP- do not put this chick on a pedestal. It seems as though you have already put her there and mentally you already put her out of reach.
Just curious OP......is her ex a white dude or black dude?
Approach her like you would any other chick that you want to take the bait. Be social and a touch flirty, but by all means ask her out. Get your answer.
Dont bring up the race topic or think you have to act any different than you normally would with a chick.
When I date younger women (I'm 39 and normally date chicks between 25-30) I never bring up the age difference. Normally, they wont either. Same with race.
Black women can be very sexy and I have hooked up with one or two in my time.
Haha.I think black girls look way nicer when they have their hair natural like in that third pic.
Anyway treat her same as any other girl, just try not to be too much of a cracker (but also don't start talking ebonics haha)
Yea you're right. I'm going to try to keep my emotions/mind in check with this one.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
Anybody ever see Iman, David Bowie's wife? One of the most beautiful women in the world, and very fine facial features.
Genetic studies have shown greater genetic diversity amongst African tribes than between any other ethnic comparison. I'd have to look for the study but the idea that black means one set of traits is silliness.
Hot is hot OP. If she's your cup of tea go for it! I think she's a gorgeous woman even though I'm not into women...I appreciate beauty and she is certainly beautiful.
Just don't get all gaa gaa. That goes badly as you know.
That's because Ethiopians, Somalis and many Sudanese are a product of the mixing of Caucasian (i.e. Arab and Berber) North African tribes and black Sub-Saharan African tribes. Unmixed black Africans come primarily from the western and southern parts Africa.Actually there are African women with Aqualine features naturally. Many Sudanese, Ethiopian & Somalian women have thin noses and high cheekbones.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.had to come back and say if you haven't given a black chick a try before do so immediately.
They're amazing
Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.They are just a woman like any other woman. Stop the generalizations. You will find amazing women in all races eventually.
That's because they have to use lotion all the time to prevent it from being ashy...Yup, although I have to say their skin is much much softer than any white broad. Latinas too, that silky smooth skin. I've never been with 1, only second base.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.