flowtheory
Master Don Juan
I’m sure everyone at least noticed subconsciously. But it all adds to the photo. Hair frazzled, rolls hanging out, sunburnt, prescription pills in foreground, plays to the after mess..
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Fiance is getting fat and ugly
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Oh yeah. Someone can be "skinny fat " at that weight
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I have no doubt you can get it done.
Yes Sir, I believe you
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lol. We have a one bedroom apartment with no storage space and it's 2 grand a month. It's expensive as fck where we live. Those clothes was laundry or something and I think we just got back from a vacation our stuff was everywhere.
Doughy? Lol you guys are silly.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
You're damn right I'm in denial
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Obviously looks are subjective and variable depending on where you live and compare to others in your environment. In the midwest, you'd be considered in shape an fit as majority of older guys get to be obese or out of shape.
Personally, I think you are skinny and fit(good thing) but not muscular or jacked. Girls aren't going to notice your muscle tone underneath clothes and by the time any girls get to see it, they already like you enough to sleep with you. Unless you are at the beach, just being on the thin side and wearing good clothes and having a good face will attract most girls.
Now guys from California/Miami/etc. and such have a different environment where there are many more healthy and fit people living there. So their reference point might be skewed and you could actually be "doughy" to them.
But this begs the question on whether your girl see's you as "doughy" too because if that's the case, she will not have incentive to improve herself or lose any sense of security when you are out and about and if other girls check you out.
Ultimately, we are talking about her and whether you'd be comfortable in the long run to stay with her if she let herself go or refused to improve her looks. Has she ever said anything to you about improving yourself in any way? (clothes, hair, hygiene, appearance)
DEEZEDBRAH
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Monogamy!
Voice mate, I am curious if she is on your gym schedule. This is western society LTR and monogamy. Catch and release works. Nip it in the bud now. Or pull the chute.
DEEZEDBRAH
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Not doey but you can definitely hit the gym harder man. Jump on the intermittent fasting crew. 5x5 strength train split. Inspire her and others lulz
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Speaking from experience, this is true. : )I never go by weight as we all know muscle weighs more than fat. Always go by how you look and fit in your clothes.
And, I now think fasting is important to fat loss, disease avoidance, and long life.
Triple whammy!!!
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death_wish. .
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more important for some than others , some ppl just cant digest food , they need extra time (fasting) just to keep up
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
redskinsfan92
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Leave her
Atom Smasher
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I’m beginning to think that this is true of me.
death_wish. .
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i had massive success with IF , the thing is it takes super discipline
bat soup
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Get out now whilst you still can. Find a girl 10 years younger and enjoy another 7 or 8 years of good sex.
KindredSpiritzz
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my ex was like that. Plumped out soon as we got married and kept going. When id say something she'd tell me i should love her no matter how much she weighed. I realized she was turning into her mom and divorced her. Best decision i ever made, 20 yrs later she IS her mom, shaped like a brick and ugly. I dodged a bullet by divorcing her even tho it cost me 20 yrs of child support it was a good decision. Id of put a bullet in my head by now had i stayed. those years you waste on someone you can never get back
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.