"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would like to know the exact statistics of hiv in heterosexuals, i am trying to look up information.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thanks for these stats and facts i am having a hard time reading the statistics on homosexuals versus heterosexuals, are the mass majority of people who contract aids homosexuals?
 

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theNEWDJ said:
thanks for these stats and facts i am having a hard time reading the statistics on homosexuals versus heterosexuals, are the mass majority of people who contract aids homosexuals?
Men are more likely to get HIV from homosexual sex and women are more likely to get it from heterosexual sex. However, men are more likely to get HIV overall.
 

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A summary..
1. Always use condoms
2. Stay away from frats, party girls/drunken girls.
3. Look for intelligent, value oriented or professional girls.
4. ask about their sexual past before you do anything. If their answers seem shady and they are more than willing to have sex with you, then you might want to stay away.
5. if sex is what you want without the fear of stds lingering, then stay away from hook ups and instead try to stay in relationships.

anything else??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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theNEWDJ said:
How do you guys go about protecting yourselfs?
I have a GLOCK 23 semi-aitomatic, in case the hos start trouble!!

amoka said:
Virgin can be shit load of diseases as well. You are not guaranteed to "Safe" by getting virgin.
This is an impossibility!!!!
 

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penkitten said:
if i were standing in a room, totally naked, no one would know that i had herpes unless i told them.
the guy i caught herpes from, didn't tell me he had it.
the condom did not prevent it the spread of it.

what else can i say?
WOW!!...you have herpes?!?! what a shocker! :nervous:
 

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Ken785 said:
WOW!!...you have herpes?!?! what a shocker! :nervous:
I'M AS SURPRISED AS YOU ARE!!!!
 

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On a side note...

NEVER BELIEVE PEOPLE WHEN THEY SAY THAT BUMP ON THEIR UPPER LIP IS JUST A "COLD SORE", YOU CANT TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMMON COLD SORES AND HERPES SO BE CAREFUL...I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU SAY...

COLD SORES = HERPES
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ken785 said:
On a side note...

NEVER BELIEVE PEOPLE WHEN THEY SAY THAT BUMP ON THEIR UPPER LIP IS JUST A "COLD SORE", YOU CANT TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMMON COLD SORES AND HERPES SO BE CAREFUL...I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU SAY...

COLD SORES = HERPES
thats because all cold sores all herpes and there are no cold sores that are not herpes. cold sores is a nice little pet name for herpes on the mouth.
 

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PK's right.... "cold sore" IS herpes.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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beastmaster79 said:
i think your a lot more likely to catch stds if you have a weak immune system. i mean people are exposed to diseases all the time but not everyone catches them.


does that make sense?
that makes no sense, stop spreading misinformation
 

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penkitten said:
thats because all cold sores all herpes and there are no cold sores that are not herpes. cold sores is a nice little pet name for herpes on the mouth.
i was under the impression that genital herpes and herpes of the mouth are not the same disease, ie if you have it in your mouth area doesn't mean you have the genital version as well. It s been a while since health class in HS so correct me if i'm wrong...

Regarding the "always use condoms advice", which i also give pple, it seems to me that no DJ who has had a lot of girls sticks to it religiously. Of course it s understandable in the case of a LTR, but i know a lot of guys who stray from it even during more casual sex. For me it s a judgement call "on the moment", which led to a few wrong decisions. What do you think? do you always follow your own advice on this?
 

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drak_ool said:
i was under the impression that genital herpes and herpes of the mouth are not the same disease, ie if you have it in your mouth area doesn't mean you have the genital version as well. It s been a while since health class in HS so correct me if i'm wrong...

Regarding the "always use condoms advice", which i also give pple, it seems to me that no DJ who has had a lot of girls sticks to it religiously. Of course it s understandable in the case of a LTR, but i know a lot of guys who stray from it even during more casual sex. For me it s a judgement call "on the moment", which led to a few wrong decisions. What do you think? do you always follow your own advice on this?
There are multiple types of herpes, and the herpes you get on the mouth and on the genitals are two of those types. Type 1 is generally on the mouth, type 2 is generally on the genitals. However, either can be spread in either location. In other words, if a girl has a cold sore on her lips, it's probably best if she doesn't go down on you.
 

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Giovanni Casanova said:
There are multiple types of herpes, and the herpes you get on the mouth and on the genitals are two of those types. Type 1 is generally on the mouth, type 2 is generally on the genitals. However, either can be spread in either location. In other words, if a girl has a cold sore on her lips, it's probably best if she doesn't go down on you.
I second that. 100% correct.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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