I4EVAPIMPIN
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I'm trying to use eye contact alot more but it feels like im staring at them :nervous: and it feels kinda weird. How long is too long?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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However long you're comfortable with is your best bet. When it starts to feel weird for you, chances are that it feels weird for them too.
Metaphysical
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Eye contact is simply THE most important tool you can use as a player. If you develop your skills good enough to be able to read a woman's eyes within a second, then you are able to know with 100% certainty if she likes you or not. And yes, I do mean 100% certainty.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
oakraiderz2
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Smile and you wont feel like a creep, unless youre creepy.
I4EVAPIMPIN
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Eye contact is simply THE most important tool you can use as a player. If you develop your skills good enough to be able to read a woman's eyes within a second, then you are able to know with 100% certainty if she likes you or not. And yes, I do mean 100% certainty.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
I'm from America, but i can't wait until I get to that level you were talking about.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
I'm from America, but i can't wait until I get to that level you were talking about.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I'm from the America, but I can't wait until I get to that level your talking aboutI4EVAPIMPIN said:
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def ****ed up that reply
Atom Smasher
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I have a habit of looking too intensely at people, so I find I need to moderate my eye contact.
I tend to concentrate on one of her eyes only and wander between her eye and her nose. This way I'm not looking right through her, which can seem creepy.
Looking away to the side periodically is also effective, as it conveys that there are other things out there that can hold your attention. Just never look down as that conveys submission.
I tend to concentrate on one of her eyes only and wander between her eye and her nose. This way I'm not looking right through her, which can seem creepy.
Looking away to the side periodically is also effective, as it conveys that there are other things out there that can hold your attention. Just never look down as that conveys submission.
STORY:
I was in the subway 6 months ago and a lady (26 27 28 years probably a 7-8) was sitting in front of me! I started looking at her and she started looking at me to for a bout two minutes! She took a very aggressive FACE while looking at me! Finally she gave up! I started smiling at her like at a little CHILD! When i changed stations she followed me and started givin' me looks and stuff!
IT'S FREAKING' POWERFUL! When you look at them just think : "I'M THE MAN! I CAN EAT YOU ALIVE AND NOT EVEN NOTICE IT you KID!"
I was in the subway 6 months ago and a lady (26 27 28 years probably a 7-8) was sitting in front of me! I started looking at her and she started looking at me to for a bout two minutes! She took a very aggressive FACE while looking at me! Finally she gave up! I started smiling at her like at a little CHILD! When i changed stations she followed me and started givin' me looks and stuff!
IT'S FREAKING' POWERFUL! When you look at them just think : "I'M THE MAN! I CAN EAT YOU ALIVE AND NOT EVEN NOTICE IT you KID!"
I4EVAPIMPIN
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lol, ok I'll keep that in mind
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.