I4EVAPIMPIN
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I'm trying to use eye contact alot more but it feels like im staring at them :nervous: and it feels kinda weird. How long is too long?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm from the America, but I can't wait until I get to that level your talking aboutI4EVAPIMPIN said:Eye contact is simply THE most important tool you can use as a player. If you develop your skills good enough to be able to read a woman's eyes within a second, then you are able to know with 100% certainty if she likes you or not. And yes, I do mean 100% certainty.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.