I4EVAPIMPIN
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I'm trying to use eye contact alot more but it feels like im staring at them :nervous: and it feels kinda weird. How long is too long?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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However long you're comfortable with is your best bet. When it starts to feel weird for you, chances are that it feels weird for them too.
Metaphysical
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Eye contact is simply THE most important tool you can use as a player. If you develop your skills good enough to be able to read a woman's eyes within a second, then you are able to know with 100% certainty if she likes you or not. And yes, I do mean 100% certainty.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
oakraiderz2
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Smile and you wont feel like a creep, unless youre creepy.
I4EVAPIMPIN
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Eye contact is simply THE most important tool you can use as a player. If you develop your skills good enough to be able to read a woman's eyes within a second, then you are able to know with 100% certainty if she likes you or not. And yes, I do mean 100% certainty.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
I'm from America, but i can't wait until I get to that level you were talking about.
There's an almost intuition or a 6th sense which overwhelms the trained man to know when a woman is checking him out and when she is just looking at him cause she's bored.
And the beautiful thing about eye contact is that once you develop your skills and you are able to spot women checking you out, they are ALREADY attracted to you, so you don't need to waste your time running up in their faces with pick up lines. Anything you will say will work because they already want you.
If you are refering to making eye contact while SPEAKING to a girl, then hold it as long as it seems comfortable. I grew up making a lot of contact being raised in Europe. Over there, if you don't make a lot of eye contact, people think you are weird or hiding something. (I know many of you are from UK. I don't know what the deal is there, but I refer to actual central Europe)
I'm from America, but i can't wait until I get to that level you were talking about.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I'm from the America, but I can't wait until I get to that level your talking aboutI4EVAPIMPIN said:
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def ****ed up that reply
Atom Smasher
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I have a habit of looking too intensely at people, so I find I need to moderate my eye contact.
I tend to concentrate on one of her eyes only and wander between her eye and her nose. This way I'm not looking right through her, which can seem creepy.
Looking away to the side periodically is also effective, as it conveys that there are other things out there that can hold your attention. Just never look down as that conveys submission.
I tend to concentrate on one of her eyes only and wander between her eye and her nose. This way I'm not looking right through her, which can seem creepy.
Looking away to the side periodically is also effective, as it conveys that there are other things out there that can hold your attention. Just never look down as that conveys submission.
STORY:
I was in the subway 6 months ago and a lady (26 27 28 years probably a 7-8) was sitting in front of me! I started looking at her and she started looking at me to for a bout two minutes! She took a very aggressive FACE while looking at me! Finally she gave up! I started smiling at her like at a little CHILD! When i changed stations she followed me and started givin' me looks and stuff!
IT'S FREAKING' POWERFUL! When you look at them just think : "I'M THE MAN! I CAN EAT YOU ALIVE AND NOT EVEN NOTICE IT you KID!"
I was in the subway 6 months ago and a lady (26 27 28 years probably a 7-8) was sitting in front of me! I started looking at her and she started looking at me to for a bout two minutes! She took a very aggressive FACE while looking at me! Finally she gave up! I started smiling at her like at a little CHILD! When i changed stations she followed me and started givin' me looks and stuff!
IT'S FREAKING' POWERFUL! When you look at them just think : "I'M THE MAN! I CAN EAT YOU ALIVE AND NOT EVEN NOTICE IT you KID!"
I4EVAPIMPIN
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lol, ok I'll keep that in mind
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.