She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Blimey,some hardcore excuses there!
Yeah it was pretty hilarious. That was probably over 7 years and many hundreds of dates.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The polarity isn't right , she may be slightly interested but not enough to make her want too see you
What do you mean by that? She would smash, but depending on her mood?
I think I lost my frame. I was exciting the pub, and she was entering. She said hello first. I focused on her. I should have given more scope to who she was with, ie: a guy or not? If not, I should've gone back in the pub with her. I messaged her when I got home, but she didn't reply.
I mean you haven't done a good enough job at placing her in her feminine frame and you in your masculine
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks for the advice.
I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
This is nasty work, I mean damn I thought I had heard it all but how evil you gotta be to "Fake" her mom messaging you about being in a car wreck? I had a girl who flaked on me telling me she had to help her mother clean, this was two years ago. 6 months later we matched on Hinge when I was using it at the time and she was upset that I had called her out on her lies needless to say I never went out with her but no loss on my part.
You messaging her was a mistake and made you look desperate and needy. Should have had her reach out to you.
I love watching the show cause it shows the hypocrisies and delusion of modern women. However, I would say 70-99% of the women depending on the episode are not wifey material much less girlfriend material. A lot of hoodrat types, even some of the hottest chicks are single mothers with 3 different babies, strippers etc. I remember the episode with the Asian stripper she seemed like a cool chick but you can tell her that something or someone(s) in the past did a number on her. The show IMO needs more variety of women from different races cause honestly the ones they put in place are not even qualified.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
