You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Blimey,some hardcore excuses there!
Yeah it was pretty hilarious. That was probably over 7 years and many hundreds of dates.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
The polarity isn't right , she may be slightly interested but not enough to make her want too see you
What do you mean by that? She would smash, but depending on her mood?
I think I lost my frame. I was exciting the pub, and she was entering. She said hello first. I focused on her. I should have given more scope to who she was with, ie: a guy or not? If not, I should've gone back in the pub with her. I messaged her when I got home, but she didn't reply.
I mean you haven't done a good enough job at placing her in her feminine frame and you in your masculine
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks for the advice.
I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
This is nasty work, I mean damn I thought I had heard it all but how evil you gotta be to "Fake" her mom messaging you about being in a car wreck? I had a girl who flaked on me telling me she had to help her mother clean, this was two years ago. 6 months later we matched on Hinge when I was using it at the time and she was upset that I had called her out on her lies needless to say I never went out with her but no loss on my part.
You messaging her was a mistake and made you look desperate and needy. Should have had her reach out to you.
I love watching the show cause it shows the hypocrisies and delusion of modern women. However, I would say 70-99% of the women depending on the episode are not wifey material much less girlfriend material. A lot of hoodrat types, even some of the hottest chicks are single mothers with 3 different babies, strippers etc. I remember the episode with the Asian stripper she seemed like a cool chick but you can tell her that something or someone(s) in the past did a number on her. The show IMO needs more variety of women from different races cause honestly the ones they put in place are not even qualified.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
