You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Blimey,some hardcore excuses there!
Yeah it was pretty hilarious. That was probably over 7 years and many hundreds of dates.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The polarity isn't right , she may be slightly interested but not enough to make her want too see you
What do you mean by that? She would smash, but depending on her mood?
I think I lost my frame. I was exciting the pub, and she was entering. She said hello first. I focused on her. I should have given more scope to who she was with, ie: a guy or not? If not, I should've gone back in the pub with her. I messaged her when I got home, but she didn't reply.
I mean you haven't done a good enough job at placing her in her feminine frame and you in your masculine
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks for the advice.
I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
This is nasty work, I mean damn I thought I had heard it all but how evil you gotta be to "Fake" her mom messaging you about being in a car wreck? I had a girl who flaked on me telling me she had to help her mother clean, this was two years ago. 6 months later we matched on Hinge when I was using it at the time and she was upset that I had called her out on her lies needless to say I never went out with her but no loss on my part.
You messaging her was a mistake and made you look desperate and needy. Should have had her reach out to you.
I love watching the show cause it shows the hypocrisies and delusion of modern women. However, I would say 70-99% of the women depending on the episode are not wifey material much less girlfriend material. A lot of hoodrat types, even some of the hottest chicks are single mothers with 3 different babies, strippers etc. I remember the episode with the Asian stripper she seemed like a cool chick but you can tell her that something or someone(s) in the past did a number on her. The show IMO needs more variety of women from different races cause honestly the ones they put in place are not even qualified.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
