That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Blimey,some hardcore excuses there!
Yeah it was pretty hilarious. That was probably over 7 years and many hundreds of dates.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The polarity isn't right , she may be slightly interested but not enough to make her want too see you
What do you mean by that? She would smash, but depending on her mood?
I think I lost my frame. I was exciting the pub, and she was entering. She said hello first. I focused on her. I should have given more scope to who she was with, ie: a guy or not? If not, I should've gone back in the pub with her. I messaged her when I got home, but she didn't reply.
I mean you haven't done a good enough job at placing her in her feminine frame and you in your masculine
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks for the advice.
I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
This is nasty work, I mean damn I thought I had heard it all but how evil you gotta be to "Fake" her mom messaging you about being in a car wreck? I had a girl who flaked on me telling me she had to help her mother clean, this was two years ago. 6 months later we matched on Hinge when I was using it at the time and she was upset that I had called her out on her lies needless to say I never went out with her but no loss on my part.
You messaging her was a mistake and made you look desperate and needy. Should have had her reach out to you.
I love watching the show cause it shows the hypocrisies and delusion of modern women. However, I would say 70-99% of the women depending on the episode are not wifey material much less girlfriend material. A lot of hoodrat types, even some of the hottest chicks are single mothers with 3 different babies, strippers etc. I remember the episode with the Asian stripper she seemed like a cool chick but you can tell her that something or someone(s) in the past did a number on her. The show IMO needs more variety of women from different races cause honestly the ones they put in place are not even qualified.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
