SharinganUser
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My ex-gf added me to facebook.com today, but hasn't sent a message to me yet. I don't get it. What should I do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ex-gf added me to facebook.com??
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
you mean that she added you as a friend on facebook?
It is just to keep in touch with you just in case she wants to catch up on you. It means nothing. I added my ex-girlfriend as a friend. It means nothing.
comic_relief
It is just to keep in touch with you just in case she wants to catch up on you. It means nothing. I added my ex-girlfriend as a friend. It means nothing.
comic_relief
MacAvoy
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It means she wants to keep tabs on you and when she sees that you've moved on and are seeing other women, she'll initiate convo so she can reel you back in.
This is precisely one of the reasons why I don't join facebook. As it is now, I've got a tonne of women asking why I don't join facebook, and there are a tonne of people who put up pictures, well I don't want my business posted all over the internet.
Everyone already knows I'm a manwh0re but as long as I don't flaunt it, then they can pretend I'm not.
This is precisely one of the reasons why I don't join facebook. As it is now, I've got a tonne of women asking why I don't join facebook, and there are a tonne of people who put up pictures, well I don't want my business posted all over the internet.
Everyone already knows I'm a manwh0re but as long as I don't flaunt it, then they can pretend I'm not.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
yeah facebook/myspace means nothing. Just thought I'd stress it again like everybody else.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Booblepook
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Put her first on your friend list, and when she contacts you about it delete and block her.or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
a really ugly female friend had that happen.Booblepook said:
or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
She was going out with this guy from texas for a month or two then deleted her and wouldn't contact her at all.
She was heartbroken and confused.
cruel yet funny.
comic_relief
canadianmetalhead
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its facebook man who cares
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SharinganUser
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I just assumed she was up to something.
SharinganUser
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She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times "
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
"So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
MacAvoy
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MacAvoy said:
And she succeeds! This is how it all starts. Thats why DJ's who've been through the mill suggest the NO CONTACT method when dealing with Ex's. Ex's are ex's for a reason. People with options, don't need to go back to their ex's. Ex's come calling for a reason, because their current option died and they are coming back for an ego boost from you. Don't be that guy.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Wow, just wow dude. You fell for the easiest and most 1 dimensional trick in the female arsenal. If she says anything back, ignore her. Like really, or she would've just won her validation from you.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
As was said
Whatever reason it was that made her an ex, remember it when you feel the need to contact her.
Agreed with the other posters. By not replying you could have made her wonder but now she knows you'll come running back if she pleases.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
SharinganUser
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Nah, I don't want to get back with her, I really just thought I'd be polite and say hello considering she add'd me, and made comments on my pics first. I couldn't give a **** if she feels validated or whatever.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Politeness like that to an ex is the path to the dark side young Jedi.SharinganUser said:
Politeness
Validation
Over niceness
Cheesyness
All paths to the darkside, they are.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
did you ever stop to think why she didn't say anything to you? Look, she probably just wants to have 1 more friend. It makes her look that much "cooler" in her mind. Don't say anything and don't comment to her at all. If the breakup went bad I don't even know why you would accept her as a friend. But if it was OK then who cares. She's your ex for a reason.
MacAvoy
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ezily, your pretty naive if you think she was just doing it to boost her friend count on a social networking site. She did in fact contact him as well.ezily said:
SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
ezily
Senior Don Juan
haha well I didn't read every post. So I guess I was wrong. But still... facebook means nothing. I think that's something we all can agree on.MacAvoy said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.