SharinganUser
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My ex-gf added me to facebook.com today, but hasn't sent a message to me yet. I don't get it. What should I do?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ex-gf added me to facebook.com??
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
you mean that she added you as a friend on facebook?
It is just to keep in touch with you just in case she wants to catch up on you. It means nothing. I added my ex-girlfriend as a friend. It means nothing.
comic_relief
It is just to keep in touch with you just in case she wants to catch up on you. It means nothing. I added my ex-girlfriend as a friend. It means nothing.
comic_relief
MacAvoy
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It means she wants to keep tabs on you and when she sees that you've moved on and are seeing other women, she'll initiate convo so she can reel you back in.
This is precisely one of the reasons why I don't join facebook. As it is now, I've got a tonne of women asking why I don't join facebook, and there are a tonne of people who put up pictures, well I don't want my business posted all over the internet.
Everyone already knows I'm a manwh0re but as long as I don't flaunt it, then they can pretend I'm not.
This is precisely one of the reasons why I don't join facebook. As it is now, I've got a tonne of women asking why I don't join facebook, and there are a tonne of people who put up pictures, well I don't want my business posted all over the internet.
Everyone already knows I'm a manwh0re but as long as I don't flaunt it, then they can pretend I'm not.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
yeah facebook/myspace means nothing. Just thought I'd stress it again like everybody else.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Booblepook
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Put her first on your friend list, and when she contacts you about it delete and block her.or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
a really ugly female friend had that happen.Booblepook said:
or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
She was going out with this guy from texas for a month or two then deleted her and wouldn't contact her at all.
She was heartbroken and confused.
cruel yet funny.
comic_relief
canadianmetalhead
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its facebook man who cares
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SharinganUser
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I just assumed she was up to something.
SharinganUser
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She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times "
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
"So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
MacAvoy
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MacAvoy said:
And she succeeds! This is how it all starts. Thats why DJ's who've been through the mill suggest the NO CONTACT method when dealing with Ex's. Ex's are ex's for a reason. People with options, don't need to go back to their ex's. Ex's come calling for a reason, because their current option died and they are coming back for an ego boost from you. Don't be that guy.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Wow, just wow dude. You fell for the easiest and most 1 dimensional trick in the female arsenal. If she says anything back, ignore her. Like really, or she would've just won her validation from you.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
As was said
Whatever reason it was that made her an ex, remember it when you feel the need to contact her.
Agreed with the other posters. By not replying you could have made her wonder but now she knows you'll come running back if she pleases.SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SharinganUser
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Nah, I don't want to get back with her, I really just thought I'd be polite and say hello considering she add'd me, and made comments on my pics first. I couldn't give a **** if she feels validated or whatever.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Politeness like that to an ex is the path to the dark side young Jedi.SharinganUser said:
Politeness
Validation
Over niceness
Cheesyness
All paths to the darkside, they are.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
did you ever stop to think why she didn't say anything to you? Look, she probably just wants to have 1 more friend. It makes her look that much "cooler" in her mind. Don't say anything and don't comment to her at all. If the breakup went bad I don't even know why you would accept her as a friend. But if it was OK then who cares. She's your ex for a reason.
MacAvoy
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ezily, your pretty naive if you think she was just doing it to boost her friend count on a social networking site. She did in fact contact him as well.ezily said:
SharinganUser said:She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times
ezily
Senior Don Juan
haha well I didn't read every post. So I guess I was wrong. But still... facebook means nothing. I think that's something we all can agree on.MacAvoy said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.