"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ex-gf added me to facebook.com??

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My ex-gf added me to facebook.com today, but hasn't sent a message to me yet. I don't get it. What should I do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you mean that she added you as a friend on facebook?

It is just to keep in touch with you just in case she wants to catch up on you. It means nothing. I added my ex-girlfriend as a friend. It means nothing.

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It means she wants to keep tabs on you and when she sees that you've moved on and are seeing other women, she'll initiate convo so she can reel you back in.

This is precisely one of the reasons why I don't join facebook. As it is now, I've got a tonne of women asking why I don't join facebook, and there are a tonne of people who put up pictures, well I don't want my business posted all over the internet.

Everyone already knows I'm a manwh0re but as long as I don't flaunt it, then they can pretend I'm not.
 

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It means nothing. It's like adding an email contact. I have most my exes on there, except for the most recent one who I deleted.
 

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yeah facebook/myspace means nothing. Just thought I'd stress it again like everybody else.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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It means she wants to use you as part of her social outreach networking program.
 

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:) Put her first on your friend list, and when she contacts you about it delete and block her.


or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
 

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Booblepook said:
:) Put her first on your friend list, and when she contacts you about it delete and block her.


or totally ignore invitation to become a friend.
a really ugly female friend had that happen.

She was going out with this guy from texas for a month or two then deleted her and wouldn't contact her at all.

She was heartbroken and confused.

cruel yet funny.

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its facebook man who cares
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times :)"

So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
 

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MacAvoy said:
It means she wants to keep tabs on you and when she sees that you've moved on and are seeing other women, she'll initiate convo so she can reel you back in.
SharinganUser said:
She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times :)"

So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
And she succeeds! This is how it all starts. Thats why DJ's who've been through the mill suggest the NO CONTACT method when dealing with Ex's. Ex's are ex's for a reason. People with options, don't need to go back to their ex's. Ex's come calling for a reason, because their current option died and they are coming back for an ego boost from you. Don't be that guy.
 

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SharinganUser said:
She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times :)"

So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
Wow, just wow dude. You fell for the easiest and most 1 dimensional trick in the female arsenal. If she says anything back, ignore her. Like really, or she would've just won her validation from you.

As was said
Ex's are ex's for a reason
Whatever reason it was that made her an ex, remember it when you feel the need to contact her.
 

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SharinganUser said:
She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times :)"

So i sent her a message back. Just to say "hey." Keep things light and then I'm going to bed.
Agreed with the other posters. By not replying you could have made her wonder but now she knows you'll come running back if she pleases.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nah, I don't want to get back with her, I really just thought I'd be polite and say hello considering she add'd me, and made comments on my pics first. I couldn't give a **** if she feels validated or whatever.
 

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Nah, I don't want to get back with her, I really just thought I'd be polite and say hello considering she add'd me, and made comments on my pics first. I couldn't give a **** if she feels validated or whatever.
Politeness like that to an ex is the path to the dark side young Jedi.

Politeness
Validation
Over niceness
Cheesyness

All paths to the darkside, they are.
 

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did you ever stop to think why she didn't say anything to you? Look, she probably just wants to have 1 more friend. It makes her look that much "cooler" in her mind. Don't say anything and don't comment to her at all. If the breakup went bad I don't even know why you would accept her as a friend. But if it was OK then who cares. She's your ex for a reason.
 

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ezily said:
did you ever stop to think why she didn't say anything to you? Look, she probably just wants to have 1 more friend. It makes her look that much "cooler" in her mind. Don't say anything and don't comment to her at all. If the breakup went bad I don't even know why you would accept her as a friend. But if it was OK then who cares. She's your ex for a reason.
ezily, your pretty naive if you think she was just doing it to boost her friend count on a social networking site. She did in fact contact him as well.

SharinganUser said:
She did comment on one of my pics that i posted of her: "Thank's SharinganUser!!! Good times :)"
 

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MacAvoy said:
ezily, your pretty naive if you think she was just doing it to boost her friend count on a social networking site. She did in fact contact him as well.
haha well I didn't read every post. So I guess I was wrong. But still... facebook means nothing. I think that's something we all can agree on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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