This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
? So you want me to lie to you?This.
She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows. The only thing you ran with was that, and some buyers remorse drivel. You are wrong on both counts and you still haven't understood why I posted for advice and support. The more shrewd members have.? So you want me to lie to you?
You did not meet her standards. You felt short on some level & posted it here. I just gave you my own take it. Not long term is still a rejection dude, but that's my opinion.
Jesus, some frajile people here.
You dropped the ball. Always let it ride. You can learn and get a take away thereafter. If you approach pickup the same way, you allow for approach anxiety and excuses to ***** out every time for lame excuses. Too hot, not hot, friends, working or having low testosterone.I ended it with a girl a while back. Japanese, studying in Europe, half my age, a good 7. Lasted 9-10 weeks. I got oneitis but hid most of it well. High IL throughout. 2 time of the month meltdowns, bit of childish disrespect, kept her cards close to her chest, put herself first, but no lies detected. Lots of sh!t tests, some failed. My gut was screaming at me but my d!ck was telling me to plough on.
The thing is, I bailed out from the PROJECTED outcome (further disrespect) based on experience, not from the magnitude of the bad behaviour so far.
So now I'm stuck in a loop between thinking 'you clever fvcker' to 'I should have held firm, she was just about break' depending on where my head is at. And that's why I'm still ruminating.
Any ideas?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
We agree Attack. A damn fine compliment.That's a compliment to you.
Me, I've never gone back to a girl without immediately regretting it.
Either way She is saying = I am tossing you back to the river. Or, Buyers remorse coined by mystery.She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I have been here in a similar situation.
Basically you ended it on your terms rather than let the whole thing play out. Nothing wrong with that. Sone let it play out for just the sex, some are in full denial mode and let it crash and burn. You played it how you wanted. It's all good.
As far as Marvin, first he had it wrong by thinking you never got laid with her, then he assumes you wanted to marry her and thus "lost" when she thought of you more as the alpha fux type. Don't bother getting into it with him, it will take him time to vomit all of the blue pill he has ingested over his life.
She didn't. I did. Let the penny drop, rookie.What Alpha or good sex has a woman ever turned down?