This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
? So you want me to lie to you?This.
She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows. The only thing you ran with was that, and some buyers remorse drivel. You are wrong on both counts and you still haven't understood why I posted for advice and support. The more shrewd members have.? So you want me to lie to you?
You did not meet her standards. You felt short on some level & posted it here. I just gave you my own take it. Not long term is still a rejection dude, but that's my opinion.
Jesus, some frajile people here.
You dropped the ball. Always let it ride. You can learn and get a take away thereafter. If you approach pickup the same way, you allow for approach anxiety and excuses to ***** out every time for lame excuses. Too hot, not hot, friends, working or having low testosterone.I ended it with a girl a while back. Japanese, studying in Europe, half my age, a good 7. Lasted 9-10 weeks. I got oneitis but hid most of it well. High IL throughout. 2 time of the month meltdowns, bit of childish disrespect, kept her cards close to her chest, put herself first, but no lies detected. Lots of sh!t tests, some failed. My gut was screaming at me but my d!ck was telling me to plough on.
The thing is, I bailed out from the PROJECTED outcome (further disrespect) based on experience, not from the magnitude of the bad behaviour so far.
So now I'm stuck in a loop between thinking 'you clever fvcker' to 'I should have held firm, she was just about break' depending on where my head is at. And that's why I'm still ruminating.
Any ideas?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
We agree Attack. A damn fine compliment.That's a compliment to you.
Me, I've never gone back to a girl without immediately regretting it.
Either way She is saying = I am tossing you back to the river. Or, Buyers remorse coined by mystery.She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have been here in a similar situation.
Basically you ended it on your terms rather than let the whole thing play out. Nothing wrong with that. Sone let it play out for just the sex, some are in full denial mode and let it crash and burn. You played it how you wanted. It's all good.
As far as Marvin, first he had it wrong by thinking you never got laid with her, then he assumes you wanted to marry her and thus "lost" when she thought of you more as the alpha fux type. Don't bother getting into it with him, it will take him time to vomit all of the blue pill he has ingested over his life.
She didn't. I did. Let the penny drop, rookie.What Alpha or good sex has a woman ever turned down?