This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This.What exactly feed back do you wanna hear?
You clever fvcker! Well played op. Keep the plates coming.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
? So you want me to lie to you?This.
She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows. The only thing you ran with was that, and some buyers remorse drivel. You are wrong on both counts and you still haven't understood why I posted for advice and support. The more shrewd members have.? So you want me to lie to you?
You did not meet her standards. You felt short on some level & posted it here. I just gave you my own take it. Not long term is still a rejection dude, but that's my opinion.
Jesus, some frajile people here.
You dropped the ball. Always let it ride. You can learn and get a take away thereafter. If you approach pickup the same way, you allow for approach anxiety and excuses to ***** out every time for lame excuses. Too hot, not hot, friends, working or having low testosterone.I ended it with a girl a while back. Japanese, studying in Europe, half my age, a good 7. Lasted 9-10 weeks. I got oneitis but hid most of it well. High IL throughout. 2 time of the month meltdowns, bit of childish disrespect, kept her cards close to her chest, put herself first, but no lies detected. Lots of sh!t tests, some failed. My gut was screaming at me but my d!ck was telling me to plough on.
The thing is, I bailed out from the PROJECTED outcome (further disrespect) based on experience, not from the magnitude of the bad behaviour so far.
So now I'm stuck in a loop between thinking 'you clever fvcker' to 'I should have held firm, she was just about break' depending on where my head is at. And that's why I'm still ruminating.
Any ideas?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
We agree Attack. A damn fine compliment.That's a compliment to you.
Me, I've never gone back to a girl without immediately regretting it.
Either way She is saying = I am tossing you back to the river. Or, Buyers remorse coined by mystery.She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have been here in a similar situation.
Basically you ended it on your terms rather than let the whole thing play out. Nothing wrong with that. Sone let it play out for just the sex, some are in full denial mode and let it crash and burn. You played it how you wanted. It's all good.
As far as Marvin, first he had it wrong by thinking you never got laid with her, then he assumes you wanted to marry her and thus "lost" when she thought of you more as the alpha fux type. Don't bother getting into it with him, it will take him time to vomit all of the blue pill he has ingested over his life.
She didn't. I did. Let the penny drop, rookie.What Alpha or good sex has a woman ever turned down?