"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ending Things Based on Projected Outcomes

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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marvinlfloresq

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? So you want me to lie to you?

You did not meet her standards. You felt short on some level & posted it here. I just gave you my own take it. Not long term is still a rejection dude, but that's my opinion.
Jesus, some frajile people here.
 

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? So you want me to lie to you?

You did not meet her standards. You felt short on some level & posted it here. I just gave you my own take it. Not long term is still a rejection dude, but that's my opinion.
Jesus, some frajile people here.
She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows. The only thing you ran with was that, and some buyers remorse drivel. You are wrong on both counts and you still haven't understood why I posted for advice and support. The more shrewd members have.

Dude, anyone with any experience can see there's no depth or real insight to your posts. You pile in on new threads without even reading or understanding the original post properly and repeat verbatim what you've read somewhere. There's a number of people pointing this out to you. Listen to them.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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I ended it with a girl a while back. Japanese, studying in Europe, half my age, a good 7. Lasted 9-10 weeks. I got oneitis but hid most of it well. High IL throughout. 2 time of the month meltdowns, bit of childish disrespect, kept her cards close to her chest, put herself first, but no lies detected. Lots of sh!t tests, some failed. My gut was screaming at me but my d!ck was telling me to plough on.

The thing is, I bailed out from the PROJECTED outcome (further disrespect) based on experience, not from the magnitude of the bad behaviour so far.

So now I'm stuck in a loop between thinking 'you clever fvcker' to 'I should have held firm, she was just about break' depending on where my head is at. And that's why I'm still ruminating.

Any ideas?
You dropped the ball. Always let it ride. You can learn and get a take away thereafter. If you approach pickup the same way, you allow for approach anxiety and excuses to ***** out every time for lame excuses. Too hot, not hot, friends, working or having low testosterone.

Cut the ****.
 

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Agreed that's easy if you're not that bothered about them. But if I'm really in to one, I just try and hold frame and look for signs of them being a d!ck. Backing off (let it ride?) is just too tense for me especially when you know deep down they won't change anyway.

I've bailed on chicks and genuinely hoped they'd change. They reappear, usually within three months but I don't buy it. They then go on to be an absolute d!ck, get fat, pregnant to some chump, become single mothers and so on.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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@Spaz said something a while back that is still ringing in my ears.
“The mere fact that you are looking for or accepting a LTR actually sets you up as a lesser man” (paraphrased)
What’s more, is she knows this. Breeding with her perception of “top wolf” and then harnessing the LTR cuck to support her children is her methodology.
Sure it would be optimum to get both in one man, but it’s extremely unlikely given the world we live in now.
 

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Women never want to be the "bad guy". They aren't strong enough to carry that mental burden. Thats why they always set you up to be the bad guy so they don't have to accept blame and feel bad about it. Just go find a new one to fuhk......problem solved.
 

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She actually said I'm dangerous and the opposite of the nice guy/provider type. She may or may not have meant unsuitable long term, who knows.
Either way She is saying = I am tossing you back to the river. Or, Buyers remorse coined by mystery.

You dont have to agree with me.

Dude, I read & understand well. Stop being fragile. You asked a question on a public forum, sheehs. I am still not going to lie to you.

You said you can fired her right up? So why does my comment bother you? I am a total stranger kiddo. Peace
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have been here in a similar situation.

Basically you ended it on your terms rather than let the whole thing play out. Nothing wrong with that. Sone let it play out for just the sex, some are in full denial mode and let it crash and burn. You played it how you wanted. It's all good.

As far as Marvin, first he had it wrong by thinking you never got laid with her, then he assumes you wanted to marry her and thus "lost" when she thought of you more as the alpha fux type. Don't bother getting into it with him, it will take him time to vomit all of the blue pill he has ingested over his life.

Are you reading what you are writing?
Just like the op. What Alpha or good sex has a woman ever turned down?

Go ahead tell me.
 
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