SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.Strelok said:Listen if you have troubles to get laid fine with it,most of the people are here because of that but when you start to create perverse self-defence systems for your ego it comes the problem.
SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Absolutely not!SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
No, but there's something very wrong with you that you feel the urge to come here and troll random internet people you'll never meet. That, my friend, is weird.SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why can't he do both? Hell, back in the dark days of marriage and two kids (that I never really loved) I would jerk off to music videos on MTV. This is when MTV was more than trash. Kept me from jumping from any high buildings.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Unless you are a monk or a Saint, it is probably not possible. You will become sexually perverted(see: many Catholic priests). Also, you have to think: what are you going to do INSTEAD of have sex? Masturbate to porn? Thats immoral too!
I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sureKarmaSutra said:
Cordon pretending to be a 17 year old French girl is about as funny as when he was laughed off the horse betting forums for cutting and pasting penny stock plays. Remember that one, Cordon?BBbardot said:I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sure
I have no idea what he is doing here actually. Probably like me, curious to see the freak show^^
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.SamTheHobit said:Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
This was pretty enlightening, thanks!PDubb75 said:I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.
My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
This is a classic case of buffers:SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.