"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dying a virgin

SamTheHobit

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Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Listen if you have troubles to get laid fine with it,most of the people are here because of that but when you start to create perverse self-defence systems for your ego it comes the problem.
 

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Strelok said:
Listen if you have troubles to get laid fine with it,most of the people are here because of that but when you start to create perverse self-defence systems for your ego it comes the problem.
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.

What? Standards? So the reason you haven't lost your virginity yet is because no girl has met your "standards"?


Oh brother.....


Are you serious dude? Because for me,when I lost my "virginity",the ONLY STANDARD/REQUIREMENT I had for a chick was that she be female.


She didn't have to be the hottest,or the nicest,or have the best family history or background,she just had to be willing.


Now naturally,after the first time/first few times my standards increased,but for the first time,the excitement of it being "new" and a undiscovered territory overshadowed any serious type of "standards".




I'll just flat out say...I don't believe you,but let's say you are being truthful. That beng the case......



What are some of these "standards" you have that women have failed to live up to? I'd seriously like to hear them. I want to see if they're legit reasons,or just a bunch of BS.




No man who's a virgin should be saying something like that. I've heard of women throwing that out there from time to time,but never a guy.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SamTheHobit said:
Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
Absolutely not!
If living an average life; just getting by; NEVER pushing your limits and actually living life is for you, then YES; THIS IS FOR YOU.
You should sit down and figure out exactly what you want out of life. This "dying a virgin" thing is gonna spread (or is a result of rather) of the rest of your life.

Imagine being 70 years old, lying in the hospital, soon to pass away. What would you think of your life? Would you be proud, or would you regret not doing anything? Because when you're laying there, you realize how LITTLE it all matters.

Dont throw away your life man. Seize the day, do something new and be happy!
 

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Is it possible no women have met your standards because you are gay? I'm not at all saying that to "take a shot at you" because I can easily see people attacking me for that. I'm serious though. If this is a sincere thread, maybe you aren't attracted to women in the way you "should" be, and that's where the issue is.

Just a thought...
 

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virgins put false standards on women so it makes them easier to dismiss rather than admitting to themselves they are deficient in some form or another. What are some of your standards that "keep you from getting laid". Are you waiting for the blonde bombshell who practices medicine and has a huge trust fund?
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
No, but there's something very wrong with you that you feel the urge to come here and troll random internet people you'll never meet. That, my friend, is weird.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Unless you are a monk or a Saint, it is probably not possible. You will become sexually perverted(see: many Catholic priests). Also, you have to think: what are you going to do INSTEAD of have sex? Masturbate to porn? Thats immoral too!
Why can't he do both? Hell, back in the dark days of marriage and two kids (that I never really loved) I would jerk off to music videos on MTV. This is when MTV was more than trash. Kept me from jumping from any high buildings.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdnDOMUpnsk&feature=player_detailpage#t=109s
At this point there was no turning back.

Remember fellows, nothing wrong with a little jerk here or there! Keeps one sane and makes your day brighter.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
This guy will die a virgin:

But he's "rich" so he's happy.

:moon:
I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sure
I have no idea what he is doing here actually. Probably like me, curious to see the freak show^^
 

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I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sure
I have no idea what he is doing here actually. Probably like me, curious to see the freak show^^
Cordon pretending to be a 17 year old French girl is about as funny as when he was laughed off the horse betting forums for cutting and pasting penny stock plays. Remember that one, Cordon?

Cordon, why is your French persona a 17 AND 16 year old girl. Pick an age and stick with it!

Some other French hints. Make her fall in love with a sleazy 45 year old man. That would be very French. Never have her refer to Fox News either. They don't watch or get that in France.
 

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Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Then Go Get A Fvcking Relationship! Go Get Some Chicks.

God

Why Are You Complaining About Your Situation When You're Just Sitting Inside Masturbating??
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.

My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
 

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PDubb75 said:
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.

My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
This was pretty enlightening, thanks!
 

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SamTheHobit said:
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
This is a classic case of buffers:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=125865

Myth of the Quality Woman.

Fact is that there is thousands of girls out there that the OP (amusing he isn't gay...?) would give his left testicle to fvck.

If losing his virginity wasn't the problem, then he wouldn't have posted this thread.

The sooner he wakes up and realises that his being a virgin IS THE PROBLEM, the sooner he can start to improve himself and get the s*x he is crying out for.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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