SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.Strelok said:Listen if you have troubles to get laid fine with it,most of the people are here because of that but when you start to create perverse self-defence systems for your ego it comes the problem.
SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Absolutely not!SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
No, but there's something very wrong with you that you feel the urge to come here and troll random internet people you'll never meet. That, my friend, is weird.SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why can't he do both? Hell, back in the dark days of marriage and two kids (that I never really loved) I would jerk off to music videos on MTV. This is when MTV was more than trash. Kept me from jumping from any high buildings.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Unless you are a monk or a Saint, it is probably not possible. You will become sexually perverted(see: many Catholic priests). Also, you have to think: what are you going to do INSTEAD of have sex? Masturbate to porn? Thats immoral too!
I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sureKarmaSutra said:
Cordon pretending to be a 17 year old French girl is about as funny as when he was laughed off the horse betting forums for cutting and pasting penny stock plays. Remember that one, Cordon?BBbardot said:I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sure
I have no idea what he is doing here actually. Probably like me, curious to see the freak show^^
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.SamTheHobit said:Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
This was pretty enlightening, thanks!PDubb75 said:I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.
My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
This is a classic case of buffers:SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.