SamTheHobit
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Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dying a virgin
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Yes. You should be compelled to spread your seed as much as possible.
SamTheHobit
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losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.Strelok said:
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SamTheHobit said:
What? Standards? So the reason you haven't lost your virginity yet is because no girl has met your "standards"?
Oh brother.....
Are you serious dude? Because for me,when I lost my "virginity",the ONLY STANDARD/REQUIREMENT I had for a chick was that she be female.
She didn't have to be the hottest,or the nicest,or have the best family history or background,she just had to be willing.
Now naturally,after the first time/first few times my standards increased,but for the first time,the excitement of it being "new" and a undiscovered territory overshadowed any serious type of "standards".
I'll just flat out say...I don't believe you,but let's say you are being truthful. That beng the case......
What are some of these "standards" you have that women have failed to live up to? I'd seriously like to hear them. I want to see if they're legit reasons,or just a bunch of BS.
No man who's a virgin should be saying something like that. I've heard of women throwing that out there from time to time,but never a guy.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
NorwegianDJ
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Absolutely not!SamTheHobit said:
If living an average life; just getting by; NEVER pushing your limits and actually living life is for you, then YES; THIS IS FOR YOU.
You should sit down and figure out exactly what you want out of life. This "dying a virgin" thing is gonna spread (or is a result of rather) of the rest of your life.
Imagine being 70 years old, lying in the hospital, soon to pass away. What would you think of your life? Would you be proud, or would you regret not doing anything? Because when you're laying there, you realize how LITTLE it all matters.
Dont throw away your life man. Seize the day, do something new and be happy!
Is it possible no women have met your standards because you are gay? I'm not at all saying that to "take a shot at you" because I can easily see people attacking me for that. I'm serious though. If this is a sincere thread, maybe you aren't attracted to women in the way you "should" be, and that's where the issue is.
Just a thought...
Just a thought...
virgins put false standards on women so it makes them easier to dismiss rather than admitting to themselves they are deficient in some form or another. What are some of your standards that "keep you from getting laid". Are you waiting for the blonde bombshell who practices medicine and has a huge trust fund?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why can't he do both? Hell, back in the dark days of marriage and two kids (that I never really loved) I would jerk off to music videos on MTV. This is when MTV was more than trash. Kept me from jumping from any high buildings.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdnDOMUpnsk&feature=player_detailpage#t=109s
At this point there was no turning back.
Remember fellows, nothing wrong with a little jerk here or there! Keeps one sane and makes your day brighter.
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Cordon pretending to be a 17 year old French girl is about as funny as when he was laughed off the horse betting forums for cutting and pasting penny stock plays. Remember that one, Cordon?BBbardot said:
Cordon, why is your French persona a 17 AND 16 year old girl. Pick an age and stick with it!
Some other French hints. Make her fall in love with a sleazy 45 year old man. That would be very French. Never have her refer to Fox News either. They don't watch or get that in France.
SamTheHobit
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Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Then Go Get A Fvcking Relationship! Go Get Some Chicks.
God
Why Are You Complaining About Your Situation When You're Just Sitting Inside Masturbating??
God
Why Are You Complaining About Your Situation When You're Just Sitting Inside Masturbating??
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.SamTheHobit said:
My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
SamTheHobit
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This was pretty enlightening, thanks!PDubb75 said:
This is a classic case of buffers:SamTheHobit said:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=125865
Myth of the Quality Woman.
Fact is that there is thousands of girls out there that the OP (amusing he isn't gay...?) would give his left testicle to fvck.
If losing his virginity wasn't the problem, then he wouldn't have posted this thread.
The sooner he wakes up and realises that his being a virgin IS THE PROBLEM, the sooner he can start to improve himself and get the s*x he is crying out for.
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how old are you?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.