SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.Strelok said:Listen if you have troubles to get laid fine with it,most of the people are here because of that but when you start to create perverse self-defence systems for your ego it comes the problem.
SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Absolutely not!SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
No, but there's something very wrong with you that you feel the urge to come here and troll random internet people you'll never meet. That, my friend, is weird.SamTheHobit said:Heres the question, is there something wrong with me that i dont mind dying a virgin/alone?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why can't he do both? Hell, back in the dark days of marriage and two kids (that I never really loved) I would jerk off to music videos on MTV. This is when MTV was more than trash. Kept me from jumping from any high buildings.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Unless you are a monk or a Saint, it is probably not possible. You will become sexually perverted(see: many Catholic priests). Also, you have to think: what are you going to do INSTEAD of have sex? Masturbate to porn? Thats immoral too!
I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sureKarmaSutra said:
Cordon pretending to be a 17 year old French girl is about as funny as when he was laughed off the horse betting forums for cutting and pasting penny stock plays. Remember that one, Cordon?BBbardot said:I doubt it, he is actually hot as hell. The hottest on this website that's for sure
I have no idea what he is doing here actually. Probably like me, curious to see the freak show^^
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.SamTheHobit said:Ok lol im not trolling:/ Its just that i have trouble getting close to people due to thd loss of my parents at an early age, and when i finnaly did give my heart to a girl after 4 months she ljbf me -_- Now after this happend I dont think i can ever get close to a girl again and I dont see myself fu@king a slut to just get it over with, sex is not as important as the relationship with the girl is. This may sound feminish or homosexual if you will, but thats just me.
This was pretty enlightening, thanks!PDubb75 said:I think the issue is you are assuming way too much. Nobody said you need to hook up with tons of girls. That's not my style, either. But to essentially swear off women, and make a statement like the one I made bold up top, based on just 1 girl is overkill. The reason people preach to "play the numbers" is because everyone will experience a girl like that at some point. That doesn't mean it's always going to happen.
My point is, you could find a girl that is exactly what you want; that could solve any of these unsure feelings you are experiencing, but you may never know it because of your attitude. Take that example just as that, an example, and not a rule for all future relationships.
This is a classic case of buffers:SamTheHobit said:losing my virginity is not the problem its i just dont think there are girls out there that meet my standards.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.