"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Don't ever become this guy.
- Thread starter ketostix
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ThunderMaverick
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Good thing you refute my reply. I believe you now.STR8UP said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
There really aren't sides, but it's obvious that some of you do your darnest to stick together NO MATTER WHAT. Instead of actually responding to points made.ketostix said:
Here is something to really alarm you homos:
There is just you three left in your huddle.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Is that supposed to surprise us?STR8UP said:
ThunderMaverick
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STR8UP said:
What? Did you completely miss the point of that statement? It was a joke wrapped around a very good point.
I'm not accusing you of being a guy who hangs out with ....
ah never mind.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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It's 9 pages of flaming, nothing good, just people taking cheap shots at each other.
We're better than this here. It's time we start acting like it.
STR8UP said:
See that's just it. Don't forget I was in "their business" and "judging". You got to just love the hypocrisy in that last line. The only point the "other side" had was that my conclusion about the situation could've been wrong if some other unlikely scenario was at play. Every other side point they made was flimsy on its face. It was all just a bunch of insulting and flaming wrapped around their one small point they supposedly were making.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MacAvoy
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I hate it when you come into a thread and its already 8 pages long. Then to truly understand you have to read it all. The worst was coming into a MNIN 15+ pages in.reset said:
I got sucked in around page 4 of this thread, tried to be logically, got sucked in a bit but I kept my posts to a minimum. I'll save you the trouble, its not worth reading, like Mr Positive said, its actually disgraceful for the MM forum to have this IMO.
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STR8UP said:
From what you tell us about the people you hang out with, people ASSUME you are just like them. They think that your motives coincide with the people you go out with. They screw around and f*ck people over, so a lot of people here assume you are the same as them.
Someone made the point that if they saw you hanging out with those s!uts and attention whores they would assume you would be either a shallow money grubbing yuppie or a total AFC.
They don't know you, but they're judging you based on who you hang out with.
Is that fair of them to do when they don't even know you?
YOU certainly don't believe so, seeing as you always cry about it.
You actually MISSED that point?
reset said:
LOL. Let me give you the condensced version. Apparently it is OK for iqqi and others like her to make assumptions about posters on here, but it's not OK for me to make assumptions about an anonymous individual I observed in person. There you go
."She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.