Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Well, how was it?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
It was too crowded, in fact. I had to stop the people several times from talking to get in session. We had about two sessions by asking questions to see if they are True or False. Alot of people agreed on the same topic and such.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Sweet, glad to hear that there's a lot of interest. Suggestion: next time select only one or two topics before hand and let everyone know before hand. Maybe even have a poll to choose the next topic.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
send me a PM and let me know when the next chat is to take place and i shall participate.
Eastern standard time is fine.
***if it's simple **** though for newbs count me out i'm more interested in talked to ppl that know their sh!t and/or have been around here for a while.
you f'kers know who you are
Eastern standard time is fine.
***if it's simple **** though for newbs count me out i'm more interested in talked to ppl that know their sh!t and/or have been around here for a while.
you f'kers know who you are
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
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I can participate anytime I'm online, although I'm often out or at work.
I can participate anytime I'm online, although I'm often out or at work.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
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Francisco d'Anconia: Whats your msn addy?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
InsidiousNstinct
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Chat is going on right now, we have around seven people so feel free to join. Chat name is "donjuanchat" no spaces. See you there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lost In Translation
Master Don Juan
Thankyou to ~ªêQµïTª$~ for hosting the Don Juan chat room on IRC
all the time and effort you spent
THANKYOU
all the time and effort you spent
THANKYOU
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.