"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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- Thread starter Al Moh.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm 18 just graduated first year of college and I'm on my way to becoming a natural. I'm big into RSD but first found out about PU over a year and a half ago from sosuave (biiiiig KJ for the first year tho... on another account). I've been getting pretty good lately, so this is just trying to help me cement my success and keep practicing over the summer.
You are becoming a natural? You got to tell me how you're doing that!
WHatever, you're in and DJ Snake Eyes too, but he'll better report back at the end of the first week.
Al Moh.
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Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Prepare yourself! What does that mean? It means buckle your seatbelt, Djs, 'cause AFC-town is going bye-bye!
Al Moh.
Killer Six Pac
Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Anthrax
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I have been looking around this site for a month or so, and im ready to get up and give it my all.
I want to be able to get rid of approach anxiety, build confidence, and improve my DJ'ing.
So bring on May 22nd
Kuzuri.Toukon
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About me, 17 junior in high school. I never had a girlfriend before, never kissed a girl or anything. I don't even have any close friends that are girls man, I suck.
When I am around a girl I like, instead of trying to flirt with them I go and try to act uninterested. (omg I am so childish.) I would try to act like I am not looking at them but when they turn around I look. I don't act like myself around girls that I like but when I CAN around girls I don't like, they LIKE ME.
I use to get a lot of interest from this one girl but I never made my move and now I think she lost interest in me or is really good at concealing it. She is a big oneitus that I need to get rid of by associating myself with more girls.
Well yea, that's my life story guys. Good luck to us all ! ^^
I'm 25 (I know, old compared to some of you people), 5'7". I don't have problems with talking or approaching women. I am athletic. There are a couple of things I know I need to work on, so I will go through with this. I work at Bahama Breeze, a restaurant. There are many peers at work who always talk about the fine ladies that come in to eat on the Friday and Saturday evenings. My challenge is to show that I could pick these women up anytime, even while I'm working. I don't care about the success rate. This is to help myself and an improvement in my confidence. A good way to build my social skills and circle while having fun. Thanks for starting this up! I will do my best to not give up
I'm 24. 6'1. Been told by way too many people that I'm attractive even though I personally feel like I'm out of shape and hadn't been to the gym in ages. I can approach find if I am in a good confident mood. It has been down for a while but I've just started going back into the gym and going to get back into shape. Haven't done no hooking up since about Feb. 2007 and Aug. 2006 before that.
I do live in a college town, so it should be pretty easy when going out Thurs,Fri,Sat nights but I just have to get into the right mindset and head out.
Gonna see what you guys do during the rest of the week to find HBs.
BTW, I am going to close the list on the 21th to assign groups, so everyone who is still thinking about joining, please join till the 20th.
Al Moh.
Killer Six Pac
Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Anthrax
Kuzuri.Toukon
Kid Style
QuezNozet
rushing dude 123
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Raoul Duke
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rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
So true, but getting rejected is going out of ur comfort zone, like i cud get 10 numbers in a week because i usually close when i am comfortable with it and feel like its going good. The thing about that is, u don't explore the unknown and when u get rejected its probablly because u havn't been in that situation before. So by getting rejected ur doing something more wilder than before, which will lead u to gain new experience. Basically i am to use to the area i am in now, which is a problem i am going to solve.Touchout said:
but next time around i am just going have fun with it.
RD: whats ur number
HB blah blah here
RD: uhhhhh r u sure u want to give me this?, do u want it back lol
btw al moh very nice for starting this thread, i hope u c it through to the end
Al Moh.
Killer Six Pac
Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Anthrax
Kuzuri.Toukon
Kid Style
QuezNozet
rushing dude 123
Raoul Duke
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.