"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm 18 just graduated first year of college and I'm on my way to becoming a natural. I'm big into RSD but first found out about PU over a year and a half ago from sosuave (biiiiig KJ for the first year tho... on another account). I've been getting pretty good lately, so this is just trying to help me cement my success and keep practicing over the summer.
You are becoming a natural? You got to tell me how you're doing that!
WHatever, you're in and DJ Snake Eyes too, but he'll better report back at the end of the first week.
Al Moh.
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Touchout
Prepare yourself! What does that mean? It means buckle your seatbelt, Djs, 'cause AFC-town is going bye-bye!
Al Moh.
Killer Six Pac
Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Anthrax
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I have been looking around this site for a month or so, and im ready to get up and give it my all.
I want to be able to get rid of approach anxiety, build confidence, and improve my DJ'ing.
So bring on May 22nd
Kuzuri.Toukon
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About me, 17 junior in high school. I never had a girlfriend before, never kissed a girl or anything. I don't even have any close friends that are girls man, I suck.
When I am around a girl I like, instead of trying to flirt with them I go and try to act uninterested. (omg I am so childish.) I would try to act like I am not looking at them but when they turn around I look. I don't act like myself around girls that I like but when I CAN around girls I don't like, they LIKE ME.
I use to get a lot of interest from this one girl but I never made my move and now I think she lost interest in me or is really good at concealing it. She is a big oneitus that I need to get rid of by associating myself with more girls.
Well yea, that's my life story guys. Good luck to us all ! ^^
I'm 25 (I know, old compared to some of you people), 5'7". I don't have problems with talking or approaching women. I am athletic. There are a couple of things I know I need to work on, so I will go through with this. I work at Bahama Breeze, a restaurant. There are many peers at work who always talk about the fine ladies that come in to eat on the Friday and Saturday evenings. My challenge is to show that I could pick these women up anytime, even while I'm working. I don't care about the success rate. This is to help myself and an improvement in my confidence. A good way to build my social skills and circle while having fun. Thanks for starting this up! I will do my best to not give up
I'm 24. 6'1. Been told by way too many people that I'm attractive even though I personally feel like I'm out of shape and hadn't been to the gym in ages. I can approach find if I am in a good confident mood. It has been down for a while but I've just started going back into the gym and going to get back into shape. Haven't done no hooking up since about Feb. 2007 and Aug. 2006 before that.
I do live in a college town, so it should be pretty easy when going out Thurs,Fri,Sat nights but I just have to get into the right mindset and head out.
Gonna see what you guys do during the rest of the week to find HBs.
BTW, I am going to close the list on the 21th to assign groups, so everyone who is still thinking about joining, please join till the 20th.
Al Moh.
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bluemanson
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sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
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B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
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In Motion
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Punisha
Erasmus
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Guybrush
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TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
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Kid Style
QuezNozet
rushing dude 123
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Raoul Duke
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rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
So true, but getting rejected is going out of ur comfort zone, like i cud get 10 numbers in a week because i usually close when i am comfortable with it and feel like its going good. The thing about that is, u don't explore the unknown and when u get rejected its probablly because u havn't been in that situation before. So by getting rejected ur doing something more wilder than before, which will lead u to gain new experience. Basically i am to use to the area i am in now, which is a problem i am going to solve.Touchout said:
but next time around i am just going have fun with it.
RD: whats ur number
HB blah blah here
RD: uhhhhh r u sure u want to give me this?, do u want it back lol
btw al moh very nice for starting this thread, i hope u c it through to the end
Al Moh.
Killer Six Pac
Deadly_Assassin
Apostle IX
bluemanson
Darles Chickens
sam3083
dice
gtownjuan
just so suave
schttrj
PHAT Rabbit
B Love
oldschooler
LostAndConfused
czy
JackRyanJuan
AJTD
Young Anikan
Colin O'Brien
In Motion
Daddy The Pimp
Punisha
Erasmus
Pathetik
Demon Wolf
Privitor
Heart Break Kid
scarface316
LaoRyuu-Des
Guybrush
yungahdubz
TankMan
DJ Snake Eyes
Touchout
Anthrax
Kuzuri.Toukon
Kid Style
QuezNozet
rushing dude 123
Raoul Duke
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.