"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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does the game change after you've already had sex with a girl?

garruk

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after you've already had sex, is there anything you do differently?

i feel like certain sexual tension moves are kinda pointless afterwards? am i wrong?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chickfight

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Typically, but not always, once you've had sex with a girl the power shifts to your favor. That's why usually a girl will have to trust you to a certain degree before she'll have sex with you, unless she's drunk or promiscuous. If it's just a regular girl, you no longer have to worry about being persistent as she will definitely come to you. Also, you're allowed to be as sweet as you want to her right after you've had sex. In fact I'd recommend it if you're looking for a relationship.
 

garruk

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Chickfight said:
Typically, but not always, once you've had sex with a girl the power shifts to your favor. That's why usually a girl will have to trust you to a certain degree before she'll have sex with you, unless she's drunk or promiscuous. If it's just a regular girl, you no longer have to worry about being persistent as she will definitely come to you. Also, you're allowed to be as sweet as you want to her right after you've had sex. In fact I'd recommend it if you're looking for a relationship.
hmm i can see that. thanks chickfight.
 

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I would agree the game does change. The chase is over and you have already crossed that line of sexual tension and awkwardness. It's almost like once you get to that point you can get on with it and it's starts coming more naturally and easier as she will now be more prone to coming to you. Beforehand it's like a game of getting to that point.
 

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i dunno, i feel the game still needs to be there. just not as heavy as before. you still gotta not be needy and always on her ass. like for me, i still need to back off from this girl i'm seeing otherwise i'll send her running. we've had sex plenty times but because of how needy i am, it's not enough and i want her even more now but i force myself to let her be until she comes back for more and she always does eventually. so the games still there but just not as much as in the beginning. the chase is over but you gotta stay cool or you'll lose her :/
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Hollysh1t guys, if you have to change anything it means u'r a phony & u'r faking persona just to get her in the bag...

fvck, if u have to change after bagging a chic, u'r not only cheating her u'r cheating u'rself...

U should have shuch a strong frame that u don't have to change for anyone, on anyday, at anytime...fvck!!!
 

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There is a consensus on here that the game in the broader sense of the term should remain same, what you spit out might need to change a little - like the technics, the verbal play, and you might have to show the more vulnerable and sweeter side of you (only a sneak peek, not your whole life story and all the bloody "feelings"). Incougrency does suck in-respect to any person, that's why you should be genuine to begin with. I have a friend like that who is Jackel and Hide kind of persona, needless to say he is no longer a friend, probably never was.
 

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garruk said:
after you've already had sex, is there anything you do differently?

i feel like certain sexual tension moves are kinda pointless afterwards? am i wrong?
Pretty much after you hit it, all bets are off.
 

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Why would you care? You already nailed her. She's pretty much conquered territory.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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