"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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does the game change after you've already had sex with a girl?

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garruk

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after you've already had sex, is there anything you do differently?

i feel like certain sexual tension moves are kinda pointless afterwards? am i wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Typically, but not always, once you've had sex with a girl the power shifts to your favor. That's why usually a girl will have to trust you to a certain degree before she'll have sex with you, unless she's drunk or promiscuous. If it's just a regular girl, you no longer have to worry about being persistent as she will definitely come to you. Also, you're allowed to be as sweet as you want to her right after you've had sex. In fact I'd recommend it if you're looking for a relationship.
 
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garruk

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Chickfight said:
Typically, but not always, once you've had sex with a girl the power shifts to your favor. That's why usually a girl will have to trust you to a certain degree before she'll have sex with you, unless she's drunk or promiscuous. If it's just a regular girl, you no longer have to worry about being persistent as she will definitely come to you. Also, you're allowed to be as sweet as you want to her right after you've had sex. In fact I'd recommend it if you're looking for a relationship.
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hmm i can see that. thanks chickfight.
 
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I would agree the game does change. The chase is over and you have already crossed that line of sexual tension and awkwardness. It's almost like once you get to that point you can get on with it and it's starts coming more naturally and easier as she will now be more prone to coming to you. Beforehand it's like a game of getting to that point.
 
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i dunno, i feel the game still needs to be there. just not as heavy as before. you still gotta not be needy and always on her ass. like for me, i still need to back off from this girl i'm seeing otherwise i'll send her running. we've had sex plenty times but because of how needy i am, it's not enough and i want her even more now but i force myself to let her be until she comes back for more and she always does eventually. so the games still there but just not as much as in the beginning. the chase is over but you gotta stay cool or you'll lose her :/
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hollysh1t guys, if you have to change anything it means u'r a phony & u'r faking persona just to get her in the bag...

fvck, if u have to change after bagging a chic, u'r not only cheating her u'r cheating u'rself...

U should have shuch a strong frame that u don't have to change for anyone, on anyday, at anytime...fvck!!!
 
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There is a consensus on here that the game in the broader sense of the term should remain same, what you spit out might need to change a little - like the technics, the verbal play, and you might have to show the more vulnerable and sweeter side of you (only a sneak peek, not your whole life story and all the bloody "feelings"). Incougrency does suck in-respect to any person, that's why you should be genuine to begin with. I have a friend like that who is Jackel and Hide kind of persona, needless to say he is no longer a friend, probably never was.
 
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garruk said:
after you've already had sex, is there anything you do differently?

i feel like certain sexual tension moves are kinda pointless afterwards? am i wrong?
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Pretty much after you hit it, all bets are off.
 
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Why would you care? You already nailed her. She's pretty much conquered territory.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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