lizardking82
Master Don Juan
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I tried searching online for some info but it's unclear.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
OP, what's the situation? Pregnancy scare?I tried searching online for some info but it's unclear.
No, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.OP, what's the situation? Pregnancy scare?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ok, great to hear you're researching the topic in a preventive mindset--a lot of questions are posted after the fact, so I applaud you for taking the lead.No, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.
Me too. I can hardly get it up when I see a condom so I almost have no choiceNo, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.