lizardking82
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I tried searching online for some info but it's unclear.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
OP, what's the situation? Pregnancy scare?I tried searching online for some info but it's unclear.
No, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.OP, what's the situation? Pregnancy scare?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ok, great to hear you're researching the topic in a preventive mindset--a lot of questions are posted after the fact, so I applaud you for taking the lead.No, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.
Me too. I can hardly get it up when I see a condom so I almost have no choiceNo, but I greatly dislike sex with condom, have not had it in years. I was in a relationship with my ex from September 2014 till October 2016 and she was on the pill so this was never an issue and I got used to cumming inside of her everytime we had sex, no pregnancy happened between those 2 years. Now that we are not together anymore, I had sex with a couple more girls in the mean time and I always did so without a condom. I got no problem at all controlling my ejaculation, I can feel it coming and can pull out well in time, but I notice precum on it all the time and I am just wondering. No current specific situation really, just wanted to push it into the think tank, see what the guys say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.