"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you hit on UGs?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Fenderules
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cactus3178
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Took the words out of my mouth. C&F to every chick I meet, and those I already know.
Unfortunately, it's netted me some undesireable consequences as well....I had one chick tell some people at her work (where I know alot of people) that she wanted to marry me (never even done anything with her), and then had her tell me that she'd "make a way better GF" than my current FB.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Thing is, it is hard for me to fake interest in UGs though so it sucks.
You can't choose who you are attracted to and it's not your duty to make people feel good about themselves. But there's nothing stopping you from being their friend.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Precisely. Let's take a scenario... You've been hitting on UG's for a long time, and you've finally gotten this awesome looking girl that you're working on getting in bed. You're on a date with her when out of nowhere this hideous montrosity of a female comes up and accosts you. "After the first week, you never called me back! Now I see why! You've got some barbie doll girl that you want more than you wanted me! Well just wait, you'll come back when you realize I've got the good stuff!!!". The HB you were with re-evaluates you entirely... now, instead of being some suave, charming guy, you're a loser so desperate he has to hit on repulsive women. I don't know about you, but if I were her I wouldn't want anything to do with you after that. You'd be NEXT'd!
Sorry, but my dignity isn't worth it - I'll keep on not hitting on ugly girls. If that's what works for you... go right ahead.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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A lot of people say the reason why I haven't had a serious relationship is that my standards are too high, and that rather than going for good looking girls, I should settle for a less good looking girl. My response is that I would rather be single, than in a relationship with a girl that I am not physically attracted to. I have quite high visual standarads, and that is a strong incentive for me to improve my game and do my best to better myself. Most people when in a relationship tend to get comfortable and stop working on themselves.
johnny_chase
Don Juan
I think you have to differentiate between hitting on girls and just being a pleasant, cool, fun guy to be around. Now, if you're sending signals to these girls and you have no intentions of doing anything with them, that's mean by stringing them along like that. But if you're just being yourself, saying funny **** all the time, of course the "ugs" around are going to be interested, but so will the hotties.
Being C&F does not mean you're hitting on someone.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
As well nothing good will come of it. Hitting on UglyGirls will not gradually help you to be better with hitting on Hot Babes, its like swimming you won't learn how to swim if you practice in a swamp as oppose to the ocean.
Its better to fail hitting on a Hot Babe, then to succeed hitting on an Ugly Chick. You will learn better from the rejection and the faliure then your pathetic success.
But if Ugly girls is your thing, then don't let anyone stop you!
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
diablo
Master Don Juan
Best answer yet.
Haha! Is this a personal experience? Sounds like a bad situation or a bad dream.
Incidentally, why do ugly women always use the "barbie doll" comparison towards any slim, attractive woman like it's an insult? Barbie's hot!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.