Do you hit on UGs?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Jariel

Master Don Juan

Jan 1, 2005

My thoughts go something like this:

Hot woman with great personality = potential LTR material.
Hot woman with average to bad personality = possible fling.
Ugly woman with great personality = possible friend.
Ugly woman with average to bad personality = nothing.

Some of my closest friends are ugly women/women I'm not attracted to. They're nice people, good fun, hold good conversations and very dependable, and that's everything I want in a friend so I don't care about their looks.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.