"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do you hit on UGs?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
Took the words out of my mouth. C&F to every chick I meet, and those I already know.
Unfortunately, it's netted me some undesireable consequences as well....I had one chick tell some people at her work (where I know alot of people) that she wanted to marry me (never even done anything with her), and then had her tell me that she'd "make a way better GF" than my current FB.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thing is, it is hard for me to fake interest in UGs though so it sucks.
You can't choose who you are attracted to and it's not your duty to make people feel good about themselves. But there's nothing stopping you from being their friend.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Precisely. Let's take a scenario... You've been hitting on UG's for a long time, and you've finally gotten this awesome looking girl that you're working on getting in bed. You're on a date with her when out of nowhere this hideous montrosity of a female comes up and accosts you. "After the first week, you never called me back! Now I see why! You've got some barbie doll girl that you want more than you wanted me! Well just wait, you'll come back when you realize I've got the good stuff!!!". The HB you were with re-evaluates you entirely... now, instead of being some suave, charming guy, you're a loser so desperate he has to hit on repulsive women. I don't know about you, but if I were her I wouldn't want anything to do with you after that. You'd be NEXT'd!
Sorry, but my dignity isn't worth it - I'll keep on not hitting on ugly girls. If that's what works for you... go right ahead.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MindOverMatter
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A lot of people say the reason why I haven't had a serious relationship is that my standards are too high, and that rather than going for good looking girls, I should settle for a less good looking girl. My response is that I would rather be single, than in a relationship with a girl that I am not physically attracted to. I have quite high visual standarads, and that is a strong incentive for me to improve my game and do my best to better myself. Most people when in a relationship tend to get comfortable and stop working on themselves.
johnny_chase
Don Juan
I think you have to differentiate between hitting on girls and just being a pleasant, cool, fun guy to be around. Now, if you're sending signals to these girls and you have no intentions of doing anything with them, that's mean by stringing them along like that. But if you're just being yourself, saying funny **** all the time, of course the "ugs" around are going to be interested, but so will the hotties.
Being C&F does not mean you're hitting on someone.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
As well nothing good will come of it. Hitting on UglyGirls will not gradually help you to be better with hitting on Hot Babes, its like swimming you won't learn how to swim if you practice in a swamp as oppose to the ocean.
Its better to fail hitting on a Hot Babe, then to succeed hitting on an Ugly Chick. You will learn better from the rejection and the faliure then your pathetic success.
But if Ugly girls is your thing, then don't let anyone stop you!
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
diablo
Master Don Juan
Best answer yet.
Haha! Is this a personal experience? Sounds like a bad situation or a bad dream.
Incidentally, why do ugly women always use the "barbie doll" comparison towards any slim, attractive woman like it's an insult? Barbie's hot!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.