"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Do you copy paste this to every girl?
- Thread starter Konada
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
Moderator
"Hey (her first name if she posted it) Lefty here. I looked at your profile and you don't seem like a gold digger or mental case so today is your lucky day, I would like to shoot the sh|t with you. Congrats. Hope to hear from you by the 32nd of this month? Lefty"
"Hey (first name)" - Lets her know you looked at her profile, not just pic. They like that.
"you don't seem like a gold digger or mental case" - A small compliment
"today is your lucky day" - c0cky/funny
"I would like to shoot the sh|t with you" - to the point
"congrats" - confident
"hope to hear from you by the 32nd of the month" - mysterious. Nearly all will ask "What does that mean?" I respond "I am a man of many mysteries, you will have to talk to me a little longer before I tell you that"
This is just one sample of what I might do. Use this or write your own, but use the elements I used in mine and keep it short and sweet.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Old_skoolr: Pretty much, its my way of screening which girls are worth talking to.
OP what message do you send to girls on OLD sites?
Konada
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Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
marmel75
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Hi is the worst thing you could possibly send as a first message online. They get tons of these lame first messages already, no need to add to it.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Hi is pretty generic but whatever works for you.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
To be fair, you do have to work on some rapport online before you can throw the lets meet up card.
Though it all depends on the girl.