You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Me: HiWomen: Do you copy paste to every girl?
Old_skoolr: Pretty much, its my way of screening which girls are worth talking to.
OP what message do you send to girls on OLD sites?
Hi is the worst thing you could possibly send as a first message online. They get tons of these lame first messages already, no need to add to it.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hi is pretty generic but whatever works for you.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'