"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you copy paste this to every girl?
- Thread starter Konada
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
logicallefty
Moderator
"Hey (her first name if she posted it) Lefty here. I looked at your profile and you don't seem like a gold digger or mental case so today is your lucky day, I would like to shoot the sh|t with you. Congrats. Hope to hear from you by the 32nd of this month? Lefty"
"Hey (first name)" - Lets her know you looked at her profile, not just pic. They like that.
"you don't seem like a gold digger or mental case" - A small compliment
"today is your lucky day" - c0cky/funny
"I would like to shoot the sh|t with you" - to the point
"congrats" - confident
"hope to hear from you by the 32nd of the month" - mysterious. Nearly all will ask "What does that mean?" I respond "I am a man of many mysteries, you will have to talk to me a little longer before I tell you that"
This is just one sample of what I might do. Use this or write your own, but use the elements I used in mine and keep it short and sweet.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Old_skoolr: Pretty much, its my way of screening which girls are worth talking to.
OP what message do you send to girls on OLD sites?
Konada
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Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
marmel75
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Hi is the worst thing you could possibly send as a first message online. They get tons of these lame first messages already, no need to add to it.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Hi is pretty generic but whatever works for you.Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Hey! I'm not into the back and forth texting or pen pal thing. I'd like us to meet for a coffee one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know if that sounds good to you
I've gotten some pretty harsh rejections along the lines of 'Go find someone else who is into that sort of thing'
To be fair, you do have to work on some rapport online before you can throw the lets meet up card.
Though it all depends on the girl.