"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do you care about your haircut etc when your plate is clearly unattractive?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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marvinlfloresq
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? You might not care if you lose her, but might care she thinks this?
So, another person's opinion is important to you? Hummm, it should not IMO.
Ok, one, always be presentable. Two, this is your persona not hers, or the pope, or potus. Be comfortable with yourself - forget others.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
no i meant that i might care after i lose her even tho i dont think i will
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You are contracting yourself. Or I am not understanding you, mind you I have a black belt in literature. So you care about her opinion once she leaves? Ok, thats a 1st. Hummm, ok good luck with that, it would be irrelevant you care once she's no longer around. Its your look, not hers. its ok to be bald.
I give up here.
you care about things when you lose them much more even tho they appear worthless to you at first because you got used to them
Murk
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I sometimes time a fresh cut before an event (birthday/wedding/work event) but I get them on average every 1.5 weeks so I'm always fresh. P
Furthermore, why are you linking up with "clearly unattractive" broads?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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How does that apply to your "hair"? So you feel worthless right now? And when she leaves you will feel better? See how confusing you are? You are talking about "you" and your hair. Lmao, I take the L for entertaining this. Its all good bro, cut thy hair as she/you see fit, let the world define how you feel.
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I agree. I take the L, lmao peace.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Acquire a good barber and stylist. I have a few. A good barber and stylist can help you pick a ideal look. For instance, if you have dumbo ears a undercut is a bad idea. If you have a weird shape head, a line up is only going to amplify asymmetrical features.
I don't care what women think. I go for the style I love and I will talk to my barber and stylist for suggestions. I recommend you to do the same. Also pull only hawt girls.