"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you care about your haircut etc when your plate is clearly unattractive?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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? You might not care if you lose her, but might care she thinks this?
So, another person's opinion is important to you? Hummm, it should not IMO.
Ok, one, always be presentable. Two, this is your persona not hers, or the pope, or potus. Be comfortable with yourself - forget others.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
no i meant that i might care after i lose her even tho i dont think i will
marvinlfloresq
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You are contracting yourself. Or I am not understanding you, mind you I have a black belt in literature. So you care about her opinion once she leaves? Ok, thats a 1st. Hummm, ok good luck with that, it would be irrelevant you care once she's no longer around. Its your look, not hers. its ok to be bald.
I give up here.
you care about things when you lose them much more even tho they appear worthless to you at first because you got used to them
Murk
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I sometimes time a fresh cut before an event (birthday/wedding/work event) but I get them on average every 1.5 weeks so I'm always fresh. P
Furthermore, why are you linking up with "clearly unattractive" broads?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
marvinlfloresq
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How does that apply to your "hair"? So you feel worthless right now? And when she leaves you will feel better? See how confusing you are? You are talking about "you" and your hair. Lmao, I take the L for entertaining this. Its all good bro, cut thy hair as she/you see fit, let the world define how you feel.
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I agree. I take the L, lmao peace.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Acquire a good barber and stylist. I have a few. A good barber and stylist can help you pick a ideal look. For instance, if you have dumbo ears a undercut is a bad idea. If you have a weird shape head, a line up is only going to amplify asymmetrical features.
I don't care what women think. I go for the style I love and I will talk to my barber and stylist for suggestions. I recommend you to do the same. Also pull only hawt girls.