MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Naw dude, I need more votes on this one! DIGITS sounds abit more upto date or different,THAN "NUMBERS".Scars said:I used to use "digits" until a girl looked at me like I was retarded and was like "huh"? Numbers is more direct and what I usually use today, it cuts through the bullsh!t of a girl being like "Huh, digits? What's that? LOL" cause I've actually had girls act like that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW said:Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Nutz said:Neither. When you ask for her number, regardless of how you say it, alarm bells will go off in her head that you're trying to pick her up. Instead try this...
"What's a good way of keeping in touch?"
Now she's offering up a way to keep in contact, so in her mind it's HER idea to give you her number. It's a tiny little psychological tweak that makes a huge impact. And don't worry if she gives you an email address or her Facebook info. For one thing a close is still a close. Second of all FB is now the best close you can get, so going straight for the number can hurt your chances actually.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Oh yeah Cuzza,cuzza said:NUMBER.
Digits sounds retarded. I'd actually laugh if I heard anyone say that and I'm pretty sure 90% of girls would too. That's from a UK perspective though...
Goldenboy25 said:It's focusing on small details like this that f*ck up a mans game.
Doesn't matter bro.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm not advocating/debating the issue of whether or not a man should ask for a womans number/digits.Nutz said:Correction: it's NOT paying attention to details such as this that can frak up your game. Blatantly asking for her number can set off red flags and make it feel like a pickup. If you were going indirect that's going to really work against you.
Method as in "Whats a good way of keeping in touch" read what I wrote Cas.Cassanova_Child said:changing one word isnt a new method my friend, I'm sorry to tell you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.