MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Naw dude, I need more votes on this one! DIGITS sounds abit more upto date or different,THAN "NUMBERS".Scars said:I used to use "digits" until a girl looked at me like I was retarded and was like "huh"? Numbers is more direct and what I usually use today, it cuts through the bullsh!t of a girl being like "Huh, digits? What's that? LOL" cause I've actually had girls act like that.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW said:Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Nutz said:Neither. When you ask for her number, regardless of how you say it, alarm bells will go off in her head that you're trying to pick her up. Instead try this...
"What's a good way of keeping in touch?"
Now she's offering up a way to keep in contact, so in her mind it's HER idea to give you her number. It's a tiny little psychological tweak that makes a huge impact. And don't worry if she gives you an email address or her Facebook info. For one thing a close is still a close. Second of all FB is now the best close you can get, so going straight for the number can hurt your chances actually.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oh yeah Cuzza,cuzza said:NUMBER.
Digits sounds retarded. I'd actually laugh if I heard anyone say that and I'm pretty sure 90% of girls would too. That's from a UK perspective though...
Goldenboy25 said:It's focusing on small details like this that f*ck up a mans game.
Doesn't matter bro.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm not advocating/debating the issue of whether or not a man should ask for a womans number/digits.Nutz said:Correction: it's NOT paying attention to details such as this that can frak up your game. Blatantly asking for her number can set off red flags and make it feel like a pickup. If you were going indirect that's going to really work against you.
Method as in "Whats a good way of keeping in touch" read what I wrote Cas.Cassanova_Child said:changing one word isnt a new method my friend, I'm sorry to tell you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.