MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Naw dude, I need more votes on this one! DIGITS sounds abit more upto date or different,THAN "NUMBERS".Scars said:I used to use "digits" until a girl looked at me like I was retarded and was like "huh"? Numbers is more direct and what I usually use today, it cuts through the bullsh!t of a girl being like "Huh, digits? What's that? LOL" cause I've actually had girls act like that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW said:Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Nutz said:Neither. When you ask for her number, regardless of how you say it, alarm bells will go off in her head that you're trying to pick her up. Instead try this...
"What's a good way of keeping in touch?"
Now she's offering up a way to keep in contact, so in her mind it's HER idea to give you her number. It's a tiny little psychological tweak that makes a huge impact. And don't worry if she gives you an email address or her Facebook info. For one thing a close is still a close. Second of all FB is now the best close you can get, so going straight for the number can hurt your chances actually.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Oh yeah Cuzza,cuzza said:NUMBER.
Digits sounds retarded. I'd actually laugh if I heard anyone say that and I'm pretty sure 90% of girls would too. That's from a UK perspective though...
Goldenboy25 said:It's focusing on small details like this that f*ck up a mans game.
Doesn't matter bro.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm not advocating/debating the issue of whether or not a man should ask for a womans number/digits.Nutz said:Correction: it's NOT paying attention to details such as this that can frak up your game. Blatantly asking for her number can set off red flags and make it feel like a pickup. If you were going indirect that's going to really work against you.
Method as in "Whats a good way of keeping in touch" read what I wrote Cas.Cassanova_Child said:changing one word isnt a new method my friend, I'm sorry to tell you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.