MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Naw dude, I need more votes on this one! DIGITS sounds abit more upto date or different,THAN "NUMBERS".Scars said:I used to use "digits" until a girl looked at me like I was retarded and was like "huh"? Numbers is more direct and what I usually use today, it cuts through the bullsh!t of a girl being like "Huh, digits? What's that? LOL" cause I've actually had girls act like that.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW said:Whats the best and beneficial phrase to use when asking a girl for her identification. WHATS YOUR DIGITS or WHATS YOUR NUMBER. Not necessarily like that, but out of the two words,which is more appropriate?
Nutz said:Neither. When you ask for her number, regardless of how you say it, alarm bells will go off in her head that you're trying to pick her up. Instead try this...
"What's a good way of keeping in touch?"
Now she's offering up a way to keep in contact, so in her mind it's HER idea to give you her number. It's a tiny little psychological tweak that makes a huge impact. And don't worry if she gives you an email address or her Facebook info. For one thing a close is still a close. Second of all FB is now the best close you can get, so going straight for the number can hurt your chances actually.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Oh yeah Cuzza,cuzza said:NUMBER.
Digits sounds retarded. I'd actually laugh if I heard anyone say that and I'm pretty sure 90% of girls would too. That's from a UK perspective though...
Goldenboy25 said:It's focusing on small details like this that f*ck up a mans game.
Doesn't matter bro.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm not advocating/debating the issue of whether or not a man should ask for a womans number/digits.Nutz said:Correction: it's NOT paying attention to details such as this that can frak up your game. Blatantly asking for her number can set off red flags and make it feel like a pickup. If you were going indirect that's going to really work against you.
Method as in "Whats a good way of keeping in touch" read what I wrote Cas.Cassanova_Child said:changing one word isnt a new method my friend, I'm sorry to tell you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.