idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
It shouldn't make a difference....
....if you like her, go for it.
....if you like her, go for it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i'm not trying to make a point.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Whats your point?? Dont be a punk, just get to your point.
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??Originally posted by Nivek
pretty much the purpose of these posts is to show that it is much harder for a colored male to get with a white female than vice versa with a white male and colored female. guys think differently from girls and base it on looks. girls base on social bias and other things.
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??
Its no different. Are you thinking you need like a translator to talk to the chick or what? Are you thinking she makes you learn her language before she will accept you? Are you thinking she has a 3rd arm because shes a different race.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
that's what i was trying to say but not trying to make a point.Originally posted by Cyberdx16
i think that its fine to date others of a different race. But u also have to remember that he or she may like you for who you are, but when i comes to ur culture, it may change everything.
It's been ten years since I've dated anyone from my race, mostly LTRs lasting a year or two (if that even counts as a LTR). I live in Minnesota and it's readily accepted but it isn't the norm of the locals. Most people that are receptive to it aren't Minnesota natives. Either that or they have lived in places that are socially diverse yet economically equal, if you get my drift.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.