idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
It shouldn't make a difference....
....if you like her, go for it.
....if you like her, go for it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i'm not trying to make a point.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Whats your point?? Dont be a punk, just get to your point.
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??Originally posted by Nivek
pretty much the purpose of these posts is to show that it is much harder for a colored male to get with a white female than vice versa with a white male and colored female. guys think differently from girls and base it on looks. girls base on social bias and other things.
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??
Its no different. Are you thinking you need like a translator to talk to the chick or what? Are you thinking she makes you learn her language before she will accept you? Are you thinking she has a 3rd arm because shes a different race.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
that's what i was trying to say but not trying to make a point.Originally posted by Cyberdx16
i think that its fine to date others of a different race. But u also have to remember that he or she may like you for who you are, but when i comes to ur culture, it may change everything.
It's been ten years since I've dated anyone from my race, mostly LTRs lasting a year or two (if that even counts as a LTR). I live in Minnesota and it's readily accepted but it isn't the norm of the locals. Most people that are receptive to it aren't Minnesota natives. Either that or they have lived in places that are socially diverse yet economically equal, if you get my drift.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.